Guest Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 Well, I just got a text last night from my ex. I ran into her yesterday, didn't say one word, avoided all contact. and I get a strange text message saying basically she wanted to congratulate me on something. The reason I am wondering if I should respond is because it's an Innocuous message. It's nothing about needed or wanting to talk to me. Nothing about missing me... nope, just a congratulations about something that had happend. I have been in NC for over two months and really don't know what I should do. I would find it easy to respond if she wanted to talk about what a flipping Jerk she has been, but it seems more like she is testing the water to see if she still has control of my emotions. What should I do? Just leave it be and not respond? or text back a simple Thank U? Ugg I hate feeling like I am a pawn on a chess board.
johnnytable Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Well, I just got a text last night from my ex. I ran into her yesterday, didn't say one word, avoided all contact. and I get a strange text message saying basically she wanted to congratulate me on something. The reason I am wondering if I should respond is because it's an Innocuous message. It's nothing about needed or wanting to talk to me. Nothing about missing me... nope, just a congratulations about something that had happend. I have been in NC for over two months and really don't know what I should do. I would find it easy to respond if she wanted to talk about what a flipping Jerk she has been, but it seems more like she is testing the water to see if she still has control of my emotions. What should I do? Just leave it be and not respond? or text back a simple Thank U? Ugg I hate feeling like I am a pawn on a chess board. That's because you are playing the game. Don't play and don't answer. The message is vague on purpose. She could have just "congratulated" you on whatever it is.
kjl933 Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Yes I agree....if she wanted to simply congratulate you it woudl have been "Hey Guest, congrats on the new job" SEND
Guest Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Yes I agree....if she wanted to simply congratulate you it woudl have been "Hey Guest, congrats on the new job" SEND OH I THINK SOMETIMES PEOPLE GET SO UPSET OVER NOTHING... SO, THE EX JUST SENT AN EMAIL THAT WAS VAGUE SAYING 'CONGRATS' INSTEAD OF CRAPPING ON IT, RELAX, SEND ONE BACK SAYING "THANKS SO MUCH. IT WAS REALLY HARD TO FINISH THAT SO NICE TO KNOW U NOTICED [VAGUE AAGIN - THEN ADD]. BTW, I REALLY LIKED WHAT YOU DID TO GET OVER THAT HURDLE - WELL DONE" SAY...PLAYFULL....HAVE FUN PEEPS
leopardprint Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 You haven't really mentioned if you've achieved something or have done anything in that time of NC that is worth being congradulated for. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds to me like it was out of the blue and you have no idea what she's refering to. So I have a feeling it might be a "Congradulations... on being a total jerk and ignoring me. Thanks alot," or "Cnogradulations on moving on and completely being over me already," or something to that degree since you passed by her the day before without acknowledging her. If that's the case, I would ignore it. Like the above posters said, don't give in to her childish games.
Smung Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Sorry all, I was obviously too vague on my origional post. on top of that I forgot to sign in anyway, The "Congratulation" was for something very specific. I have a new line of product and I gave my ex’s employer some samples. I have business with him so it’s not weird or creepy that I would do that. Anyway, I have told my ex repeatedly not to contact me. So not talking to her or acknowledging her presence at the office would not have come as a shock I would hope.. The issue still remains however, about two hours after her work she sends me the first text message in ages congratulating me on my new product. Hope this gives a better insight to whether I should respond or not. Thanks…
johnnytable Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Sorry all, I was obviously too vague on my origional post. on top of that I forgot to sign in anyway, The "Congratulation" was for something very specific. I have a new line of product and I gave my ex’s employer some samples. I have business with him so it’s not weird or creepy that I would do that. Anyway, I have told my ex repeatedly not to contact me. So not talking to her or acknowledging her presence at the office would not have come as a shock I would hope.. The issue still remains however, about two hours after her work she sends me the first text message in ages congratulating me on my new product. Hope this gives a better insight to whether I should respond or not. Thanks… Thanks, this helps. I also thought that there was nothing specific for her to congratulate you on. However given that you have told her not to contact you, then your only option is to not respond. Otherwise you are enabling her. You are allowing her to contact you. Just let this one go.
dr strangelove Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Women never listen when you say get lost... well eventually they do. But even then In any case she might be trying to get a conversation going with you, you could text back.. or call back or email back Saying thanks and something like how are you or something playful or funny Sometimes the NC thing is the way to go, sometimes not. I had situations where I didnt contact someone and that popped up, but then sometimes things happen and you have to make some sort of effort..flowers, showing up at their place etc.. Food works surprisingly well on women by the way.
climbergirl Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Sorry all, I was obviously too vague on my origional post. on top of that I forgot to sign in anyway, The "Congratulation" was for something very specific. I have a new line of product and I gave my ex’s employer some samples. I have business with him so it’s not weird or creepy that I would do that. Anyway, I have told my ex repeatedly not to contact me. So not talking to her or acknowledging her presence at the office would not have come as a shock I would hope.. The issue still remains however, about two hours after her work she sends me the first text message in ages congratulating me on my new product. Hope this gives a better insight to whether I should respond or not. Thanks… Well, she has to know about your new product and your association w/ her employer, so maybe she is just simply congratulating you on your acheivement. Nothing more. And since it has been 'ages' that she is text messaged you, possibly she is at the point of being able to contact you w/o it meaning anything. A tm saying 'thanks' might be appropriate.
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