smiling4you Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 Does anyone else feel like relationships drain them to a worn out shell? I don't just mean romatic relationships, although that is what I'm most interested in understanding. Take my most recent example. The bloke and I were friends for a while, then f-buddies, then we/he decided to make it a full blown relationship. He was staying at my home for about 3 months (sort of a live in relationship). While he was here I got progressively more tired and fatigued. I then got sick. Then I started sleeping more and more. Finally I called the whole thing off. After a day or so of crying and depression for bailing on another relationship, I started getting my energy back and I feel wonderful now. It doesn't make any sence. And it wasn't the guy either. He was easy to live with and didn't do anything which would cause me stress. He was very loving and kind. Luckily he was understanding enough and we talked things through well enough that we are continuing to be friends. It bothers me because it is a repeating pattern and I don't rightly know how to fix it. In my mind I want to be in a relationship but when reality hits it makes me quite simply ill. I don't know if it is society or me that wishes to be married with all the trappings. Does anyone else have this problem? Have you learned to live with it and stayed single? Or have you found a way to beat it? Any info would be wonderful...before I put another poor man through my own spcail brand of hell. Thanks
whichwayisup Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Sounds like you have some commitment issues or fears of getting TOO close, losing control. Is there something from your past? Another relationship where you got hurt badly? Or something growing up, something with your parents? Would you consider therapy, it could help you get to the bottom of why you start feeling trapped and sick when the relationship gets more serious.
Guest Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Sounds like you have some commitment issues or fears of getting TOO close, losing control. Is there something from your past? Another relationship where you got hurt badly? Or something growing up, something with your parents? Would you consider therapy, it could help you get to the bottom of why you start feeling trapped and sick when the relationship gets more serious. hey..stop snooping on my life...lol if u are that interested just move in so u can watch up close - lol yup that me! and its just because of my romantic nature....its a curse and a blessing but the good thing...it used to take me years to recover...now i do it in weeks much better! woooo hoooo
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