Guest Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 I have been seeing this guy for the past five months. After the third month I asked him if we were exclusive, not wanting anything serious but just wondering where we stand. He responded by telling me that he hasn't seen other people but he didn't see us as a couple. I was fine with that answer. A few more months have come and gone. We started spending a lot more time together in the past month and a half. Pretty much every weekend and at least twice a week. I left out of town and he called every day to tell me he missed me. We spent his birthday together and he told me that I make him happy. He told my friends he thought I was a great girl and that I had hooked up with the wrong guys in the past. Everything was great until about a week and a half ago. He was in a wedding and I called him late that night to see how it went and all of a sudden he was stand off ish...not at all like normal. I thought he was tired so I called him the next day because we usually spend Sunday's together and I asked him if he wanted to hang out during the week because I knew he was going out of town. He said "since I am going out of town I might be busy". He called me the Thursday before he left town I was in the middle of dinner and told him I would call him back but didn't do so until late. He left out of town and hasn't called me since. I broke down and called him today after not hearing from him for almost two weeks. He was very distant and said that he has been sick blah blah blah. What went wrong??? I am really sad!!!! HELP
phyrespryte Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 When is he getting back? Has he made plans to see you after his trip? It sounds bad that he hasn't called in two weeks, but maybe he was geniunely sick? When you talk to him again...maybe you should ask what's wrong? If something's been bothering him lately because he seems distant. Also, why did you wait two weeks to call him? You've been together for 5 months, there shouldn't be any calling games going on.
Guest Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 When is he getting back? Has he made plans to see you after his trip? It sounds bad that he hasn't called in two weeks, but maybe he was genuinely sick? When you talk to him again...maybe you should ask what's wrong? If something's been bothering him lately because he seems distant. Also, why did you wait two weeks to call him? You've been together for 5 months, there shouldn't be any calling games going on. He did not make plans to see me after his trip and I still have not heard from him. I have called him a few times and he hasn't answered his phone. I feel horrible! During that two weeks I waited to call him because I felt before he left like I was bothering him and I didn't want to make myself be the vulnerable one. You are right about the calling games, I just hate feeling like I am chasing someone and he has made me feel like I am chasing him. What do I do? Still no word from him?
phyrespryte Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 Well you called and left a message. You reached out. You were fair and gave him a chance. There's nothing more you can do until he contacts you. Now you just stop calling and get on with your life. Just focus on work and on your friends and on being happy.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 I really hope that you will read that book He's Just Not That Into You. It really opened my eyes, that's for sure, even though the advice is a no-brainer. You could have saved yourself the last two months if you had. The moment he said to you after three months that he didn't see you two as a couple, you should have walked out that door and not looked back. Chin up and good luck to you. You deserve someone better than him. Stay diligent, don't settle for less than you deserve, and you WILL find someone who will go the lengths to show you how wonderful you are to him.
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