iceman44 Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I need some advice my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago.I haven't spoken to her in that time.I got weak and forward her a religious chain letter. Her birthday is November 14, but I still have a cell phone she game to me with the service still on.Should I call her on birthday, if I dont and she cuts off service on the cell, I know it is over then. I figure if she left the phone on she still wants to talk.When we broke up she said in a email, that she is going through issues and I wouldnt understand.Once she resolves them and if I am still around, she said that maybe we can hook up again.Please give help me out
mozemate Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Hi Iceman, Being a woman myself I'd definately say to contact her. We're funny creatures but sometimes we need reassurance, I don't know the reasons for your breakup but to be honest if you feel it's worth a call just to know for yourself, I would definately give it a go. You never know, maybe she just needs to know you can't walk away so easy and your a 'deeper' man than that, all relationships go through this. Go for it, you have nothing else to lose! Kx:cool:
norajane Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Leave her alone to resolve her issues, as she said. Don't wait around for "maybe we can hook up again" though. She might resolve her issues and move on to another guy. She may already have. I got weak and forward her a religious chain letter And don't do THAT anymore.
Author iceman44 Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 Hi Mozemate, Thank you. You are right. I don't have anything to lose.This is the second time we have broken it.I am figuring if she is done with me, she wouldve cut off the service to her cell phone. It's worth a try.
mozemate Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 No problem.... It's all too easy to 'Assume' things, at least you had the guts to try..... Wish mine was a straight forward to be honest.....nevermind:rolleyes: Loads of luck from this side of the big pond! K
Davis Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I have to disagree with Mosemate. No offense, but I don't think doing what you "feel" is the right move. I have to agree with Nora. NC. The NC rules say don't even call on birthday or holidays. The point is to give her space and let her come back to you on her own if that's a possibility. I don't think you can really speculate on the cell phone on/off etc. There could be many reasons other than what you think. Sounds like you're looking for an excuse to call, I wouldn't do it. Hang tough. Don't call.
gfto Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 It's over. You're reading too much into this cell phone thing.
D-Lish Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 Hey there, Have to agree with the no contact. If she has issues, and she said she wanted space... it could mean one of two things: She has issues and really wants space.... or she's left the relationship in her mind and is trying to let you down easily. If it's the first, then not contacting her shows you respect her wishes, and in time she may resolve those issues and contact you again. If it's the second reason....then nothing you do or say will bring her back, and contacting her will annoy her. If you contact her, you'll interrupt the process, and she won't be able to realize she misses you. It's the hardest thing in the world to do- and it usually takes some time to adjust to the notion you won't talk to her again... but you want her to come back in her own time, and have that be her decision. D
gfto Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 or she's left the relationship in her mind and is trying to let you down easily. This is almost always the case.
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