mozemate Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Hi All, I've never done anythng like this before so please bare with me. I have been with my partner for 6 years. I came to oxfordshire to study and met B. We hit it off straight away and had a lovely time, then the three year 'rocky stage' hit. Trouble is we had to live with his parents,house prices around here are astronomical and well...need I say anymore. It put great pressure on us and was basically put down by his mum soooo much (In a very 'Oxford' polite way), I told B I couldn't cope and we needed to move out and make a life, whatever it took. Trouble is about a year into our relationship I got very depressed (Hate that word), and I was very much the insecure half of the relationship. However I grew stronger and decided to make a break in March this year myself, he basically didn't think I had it in me to move out. He's always had a little issue with his anger, he grew up with a family that was totally 'perfect' (Like they don't even argue), although his mum remarried when he was 2yrs old, so dad isn't really dad. Basically to cut a long story short I knew he had issues with trying to please his parents, but I felt I needed to carry on with my choice and move out. I did and it hurt, I love him. Then three months later he's begging me, I ignored him for 4 weeks becuase he'd been a knob throughout this, didn't check I was ok or anything (He buries his head in the sand), then I gave him another chance. He's by now shown signs of improvement......moving out and standing on his own two feet (Yep, he was spoilt before). We were getting on great, it would hurt when we had to say goodbye in the morning because we live apart, he really made an effort to get me back and I'm a stubborn cow! Well two weeks ago he goes quiet, I thought I'd give him some space because he claims he doesn't like anything in his life anymore (Other than me so he said), especially as we were living apart.Anyway, turns out he's had an accident whilst I was away in Wales, he's had his nose broken, stiches throughout his mouth....then proceeds to tell me because of this it's best we stay mates!He never even had the balls to let me know he was in Hospital.He is vain and gets very insecure when he thinks he's going to fail. My god I'm so confused, six years, I love him so much. I told him last night I couldn't cope with being just mates. He's even blocked his best mate out, I'm worried about him, angry, confused, all at the same time....he hasn't contacted me today and I'm scared he's never going to again...I really love him but realise he must get proffesional help with his issues. I truely believe he doesn't mean what he said, he is very low. I'm at my wits end, any advice or thoughts greatly appreciated....why would he throw me away after all this?????? I know he loves me, that makes it even harder:( .If he was ok with his best mate I'd feel a little different but the fact that he has thrown him away too really makes me worried. Best mate thinks he's depressed and lost and is crying out for attention as I've become the dominant one I guess!!!! Thanks all for your time, sorry it's long winded and very vague! Kxx
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