ab30 Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Hi, I really need some other peoples thoughts on my current situation, as I can't figure it out at all. I've posted on here before about my break up around 4 months or so ago. It was very hard but gradually things have got easier, although my feelings haven't changed that much. A few weeks back I had a mini email chat and at the end mentioned us going for a drink - something we said we'd do within a couple of weeks of the break up. I didn't hear anything for a couple of weeks after that email and then recieved 2 back. One joking that I'd stood him up and saying we could meet but inbetween various trips and work comittments, then another mentioning he'd found a hairbrush of mine and if I still wanted it - that I found very random. I decided not to reply and then i got busy, so a few weeks rolled by. He then reappeared on instant messenger - the first time he had done so in months, so I knew I'd been blocked. The next day I logged in, he was online and I got a message straight away asking how I was. I paniced and turned off my pc. A couple of days later I got another message asking why I was ignoring him. I decided to reply via email as I didn't want to be rude and come across as being childish. So I explained I'd been busy and hadn't got round to replying. He responded 'no worries' Another couple of weeks rolled by and I decided to say hi to him online. He made a few jokes about stuff and we had a pleasant chat. He said he'd be about in early Nov to meet, providing I still wanted to. So I said for him to contact me nearer the time and we'll sort something out. Over the last week, we've emailed a few more times. I've asked him to get something for me when he's on holiday which led to a few more jokes from him and I also needed some help with a friends PC. Most emails or IM's ended with a 'x' from him which is again something he's not done since we broke up. I've recently been dating someone. I'm taking it very slowly, but it's a bit of fun. We were out the other night at a bar I have been to quite frequently, when I noticed my ex turn up with one of our old friends. I totally paniced and felt ill at seeing him. He noticed me, but what was worse is that he knew the person I'm dating. Our friend came over first and chatted with me, he then said he'd keep my ex away as he can tell it's awkward. Then my ex came over. We didnt really talk directly to each other and he left fairly quickly to have his drink. According to my date, my ex was clearly very uncomfortable. Thankfully he doesn't know who i'm dating very well. They've only met briefly once, so there's no history and I've been told that no more contact will be made. That night I came home and got a text from my ex. Again, the first time in many months. It just said 'hey, how are you? x' I replied that I was fine and asked how he was, '(our friend) got me drunk. You'll have to tell him off for me. Nearly home x' That was that. I found it so odd to text me, especially to ask how i was considering we'd only seen each other a few hours before. Yesterday, I was chatting to my 'date' and mentioned that my ex had text me. Apparently this was already known as they got texts that night too from him. I was told that they were going to tell him today not to make any more contact but I wasn't allowed to know what my ex had text him. In my head I was getting the impression that my ex was starting to reach out to me and perhaps on some level was regretting our break up and/or was missing me, so had decided to make moves to get me back in his life on whatever level. After finding out that he was texting my date I'm now doubting that and just can't figure this all out. What are your thoughts on this? I know I shouldn't care, the relationship is over and I shouldn't make contact etc, but I can't work like that right now. I just need to understand what's going on... I'm so stressed...
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