amsantos6 Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 How long after the breakup did you end up getting back together, and briefly if you could, how, and under what circumstances? any input would be appreciated. Thanks.
mozemate Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Hi Amsantos6, Well here's to hoping I can answer that soon hey? But I know all sorts of lengths of times.....my sister broke up with someone for three yrs, theyre now married expecting their first baby. I got back with mine after three months (The first time) And I know someone who got back together after just two weeks... So I guess you just never know, and the time limit is one that you make in your own mind as it comes! (I think) K
theadventure50120 Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Depends what happened , my sister and her bf break up every week with me in the middle hearing both there stories and they hate each other. I just laugh it off , they always get back together. But some are different , there is no set limit to if/or when you get them back. Just wish mine was that simple to. Good luck. Mozemate , what happened in yours and how did you get yours back?
mozemate Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Well basically it's really complicated... He has issues (Won't bore you with that one) I had always been the one to hold us together, I guess he got confident in this and took advantage of the fact that I was a little insecure, I've never been confident see. Then I needed to make a break in March becuase we were living wit his parents (Ouch), he basically didn't think I would, again not really paying me any respect.....well I did follow through with it and although I was hurting, constantly looking at my phone for messages etc (been ther done that), I soon learnt that the best way is NC, as soon as I went quiet, a few weeks went by and heypresto he came a running..... It's so hard and becuase he let me down (Not commiting, infact he was a complete arse one night and said he didn't love me anyway), WOW that hurt....but sometimes people just need time to realise what they're missing and be reminded of how important you are to them. I think people take people for granted..... Moral-NC......it hurts like hell and days a re bloody long but it works! Mind you I'm buggered now because having sorted this al out, two weeks ago he gets all depressed and says we should just be mates because we're living apart and it does hurt to live away from someone.....I replied to him and said I wasn't interested in being mates...I'm really confused and don't believe he doesn't love me...god this sounds so petty but I'm so scard of losing him now, after all we've been through! k
theadventure50120 Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Well basically it's really complicated... He has issues (Won't bore you with that one) I had always been the one to hold us together, I guess he got confident in this and took advantage of the fact that I was a little insecure, I've never been confident see. Then I needed to make a break in March becuase we were living wit his parents (Ouch), he basically didn't think I would, again not really paying me any respect.....well I did follow through with it and although I was hurting, constantly looking at my phone for messages etc (been ther done that), I soon learnt that the best way is NC, as soon as I went quiet, a few weeks went by and heypresto he came a running..... It's so hard and becuase he let me down (Not commiting, infact he was a complete arse one night and said he didn't love me anyway), WOW that hurt....but sometimes people just need time to realise what they're missing and be reminded of how important you are to them. I think people take people for granted..... Moral-NC......it hurts like hell and days a re bloody long but it works! Mind you I'm buggered now because having sorted this al out, two weeks ago he gets all depressed and says we should just be mates because we're living apart and it does hurt to live away from someone.....I replied to him and said I wasn't interested in being mates...I'm really confused and don't believe he doesn't love me...god this sounds so petty but I'm so scard of losing him now, after all we've been through! k Yeah i went NC for about a week and my ex messaged me , i replied and got accused of being busy with another girl. But mines a bit different. You got msn or aol or anything? Your from the UK right? You used the word "arse"
mozemate Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 That made me giggle, yep I'm Welsh and live in England at the moment! Yeah I got msn!
theadventure50120 Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Can i have it please lol , you can delete the post soon after incase you don't want anyone else getting it if you want.
mozemate Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 ok it's [email protected] how do you delete it then??? Can you tell I'm new to this??haha
Island Girl Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Scenarios of getting back exes well, it's been days, weeks, months, years. So all different time periods of getting them back. I was usually the dumper - so as soon as I came back and expressed willingness, we'd be back together. In the cases where I was dumped, one came back after 4 months. He pulled the crap about just being friends because I was 18 and he was turning 21 so he wanted ot go out and meet other people. I said, "fine - go!" of course I was upset but I went NC because I was sooooo ANGRY he dared break up with me. 4 months later he called asking to see me. Guess the world of women he was imagining wasn't what he thought it'd be and I didn't stay around (completely NC) so he was missing me.
Art_Critic Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 It's funny..in most of my breakups I never would've wanted an ex back..except 1.. from 2 years ago.. but I finally got to the point that I wouldn't want her back anyway the way she was.. I have gotten back together for a week or so with an ex after 3 years.. it lasted about 1 week before I figured out she never changed.. Recently ( 6-8 months ago ) I got back together with an ex from about 16 years ago.. it lasted 2 weeks until I figured out she was druggie/drunk.. ( I like my women to remember that we had sex ). Moral of the stories.. why want an ex back ?? you are just reeling from the pain and we all think that if we just had him/her back that the pain would stop.. it doesn't.. Moving on is the only option we all have..
Davis Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Hey Art! I have been struggling with that very issue. You may recall, I was with my ex for 4 months, she got weird, broke up with me and got back with her druggie ex bf. I want my ex back, but then I think she fckd me over and would do it again. Plus, why would I want someone back that dumped me and slept with someone else? Plus, I'm thinking she's really fckd up. So.... the best answer is to just move on??
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