skimmy Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Just curious...how long did you wait before saying those three little words to your SO? How long did your SO wait before he/she said it to you? Did it ever happen for anyone that those words were spoken much sooner rather than later, but it felt so right? The "rules" say you gotta wait a long time, but did anyone break that rule?
Art_Critic Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 clown humor : I prefer to wait till the breakup to say " I hate you " otherwise it puts a damper on the relationship. Okay.. I come from the school that believes when you have the feelings you tell the person.. but don't tell someone unless you feel the feelings. Me personally I have only fallen in love with a select few so I have only said it a handful of times. I have a sibling that would tell all the girls he dated that he loved them real fast in the relationship..I used to look at him and shake my head..
laRubiaBonita Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 IME~ you should wait at least 2 months, otherwise i would Definatly not believe it!
Buttaflyy Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I said it first and as LaRubia said, even though I know I felt it much sooner than I said it. I waited so that it would be believable. Also, so that I was sure myself.
hindsfeet Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 id wait to tell them and make sure of how you feel. you dont want them to think that you tell everyone you date that. ive only told 4 women that i love them in my life. my granny, my mom, my sis, and my exwife. you could just wait on them to say the other 3 magic words first. something like.... " my daddy's rich!"
tinktronik Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I waited a year and a half before saying it .
Guest Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 i know most of the buzz has been about saying the words to a SO, one person talked about granny, mom & sis.well what about a brother, if you have one. my BF is having some issues with saying that to his brother even though he does love him. to me, a man (not gay) that can say that to another man is very secure in who he is and very tender. any suggestion as to how i can help him break through?
rina_r Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 4 months. He said it first but i replied right away. But anyway, i knew he loved me even without words.
Guest Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I probably said after about a month and a half. He said later, but his actions told me that he loved me and that was the most important thing. I finally broached the subject that even though I had always felt loved, he had never said it. Now he says it everyday. I might mention that we have only been dating for about 3 months, have been basically living together for 2 and half months or so. But when it feels right you say it.
Wantingtogetitright Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 it was somewhere around the 3-4 month mark. We had been out and as we were snuggling to go to sleep he kissed the back of my head (we spoon) said goodnight and in the same breath said I am so in love with you right now and then pretty much dropped off to sleep. It was after we had moved in together that I said it to him whch would have been about 6 months. Now we say it quite frequently, not as a routine or anything which is so much better when it is just cos. I have friends who say it everytime they leave the house, hang up the phone etc etc, and it sounds like it is by rote. Bye have a nice day love you don't forget to pickup the milk. I believe that if you feel it say it, never hold this back, don't wait for them to say it first. If you don't feel comforatble saying it then perhaps it is not the right time to say it. Love is about being completely vulnerable to that person.
Mythical Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I waited a year and a half before saying it . Mine waited this long also and it was so much more special, and it is only said when really meant. I think people are saying it WAY too soon and totally taking it for granted
allina Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I've only said it in two relationships. I think people do say it too soon, and think they are in love when they aren't, I'm guilty of this too, I though I loved my ex after 3 months and now I see I didn't. I've never said it first, never will, except to my cat
rainfall Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Mine waited this long also and it was so much more special, and it is only said when really meant. I think people are saying it WAY too soon and totally taking it for granted I gotta disagree with you about people taking it for granted. Its not always the case. Mine said it after one month and I believe that we both felt that way. It was VERY special even though it wasn't 2 years or so into the relationship.
Mythical Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I gotta disagree with you about people taking it for granted. Its not always the case. Mine said it after one month and I believe that we both felt that way. It was VERY special even though it wasn't 2 years or so into the relationship. That's cool we can both have our different opinions because I am sure we have hade very different experience's in relationships. I still don't agree because it can take 2 years just to get to know someone! but than again, it is something you also TAKE for granted because everyone deserves to be happy no matter how long you've known the person
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