TheRock Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I've been seriously dating "A" for the past 4 months. We've gone away together a few times and sleep together. We get along great and never argue. She usually texts me quite frequently each day (at least once an hour) and calls after workor dinner and she usually initiates it. All of a sudden, this stopped with no reason and it's now maybe twice a day. Now I have to initiate it. I like hearing from her and miss the constant daily interaction. We went to a Halloween Party on Sat. Night. It was supposed to be us and 2 other couples. When I arrived at "A's" house, she told me her 2 girlfriend's BF's bailed and it was just me and the 3. I said she should go and have girls night out, but she insisted I go and said she wanted me there. So, I know she still likes me -she put a more recent pic of us in her office and asked me to a family party this wknd, etc. But I sense something's amiss. How should I bring this up without seeming worried or a wus?
Touche Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Perhaps she'd like it if YOU initiated your contact more often. I know if it were me, I'd begin to back off and question whether you were even interested.
MadDog Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Don't bring it up. Just keep going until there's a real problem. Your GF not texting you every hour everyday is not a problem. If she starts not returning your messages or preferring to do other things than hang out with you > 50% of the time, then you might be in trouble. MD
Walk Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I was thinking the exact thing that Touche was... I think your gf started wondering if YOU were really into her. And instead of bringing up the "dreaded" talk, she's backing off from contacting you as much. If you like her then pick up the ball and start putting in 50% of the effort. But most guys who don't initiate contact seem to just be along for the ride. They aren't that into the girl, but don't have anything better to do. And as soon as you ask them to put in a little effort, they fade away. I guess if you've noticed something has changed, then why not mention it and ask her thoughts on it. ie: "Hey, I noticed you stopped texting as much, how come? Or just initiate more of the contact. But I like the direct approach.
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