crystal01b Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 I really don't know what to do and I need some advice from others. Recently me and my boyfriend broke up and then it turned into we were just going to take a break for about a period of two weeks. Well I failed and called him before then although I was able to show him that I was changing the person I was. You see during our relationship all I ever did was hurt him and bring up his past alot in order to be able to control the relationship. I have finally decided that I want to be back with him. We were together for over a year. Well last night he sent me his last text and said he doesn't think we should date right now because he needs to figure out his life and experience what he has been missing. He also has another person whom he is interested in but he says he doesn't know if it will go anywhere. She doesn't want to date anyone right now and has a kid. She actually told him she thinks he will get back together with me. Me and my boyfriend are going to meet up on sunday to talk and see what takes place but I am afraid and just don't know what to do.
norajane Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 we were just going to take a break for about a period of two weeks. Well I failed and called him before then although I was able to show him that I was changing the person I was. You see during our relationship all I ever did was hurt him and bring up his past alot in order to be able to control the relationship.How could you possibly change in less than two weeks? How could you possibly have shown him that you'd changed? You can't have someone back just because you decide you want him back. He's dealing with all the hurts of the past year being with you and he's decided he doesn't want it anymore. All you can do - to show him you've changed! - is to accept his decision with good grace and move on without trying to control things. Anything you do to try to change his mind is going to come off as you trying to control things again and will push him away.
Davis Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Crystal. You're going to meet him Sunday because?? That doesn't sound like no contact. I don't think that's a very good plan. All he is going to do is tell you why he doesn't want to be with you. I agree with Nora. Two weeks isn't much time. I am assuming he broke up with you, regardless, I think you better do NC. Why? It gives him time to re-think things, space, time to miss you, time for you to change. I think it's too soon for you to meet. He did tell you already he does not want to get back together, so....
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