Sand&Water Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Reply: Her: Oh. I didn't realise you meant like that. Erm am not really lookin to get into anything like that at the moment. Hope thats ok. Hows your production going? This is just a nice, polite way of saying No. You confined her into a closet. When a man, and a woman go to the movies, it is more intimate. It would be hard for a woman to get fresh air, space, and have potential room to escape -IF it does go wrong. Next time, definitely start out small. Venues that are filled with many civilians, are better for women [for dates]. Sand&Water
dgiirl Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 John, I think you did good. It is better to ask in person or over the phone, but I think you did pretty good. Plus, you know exactly where she stands. None of these silly mind games. Just because she said no, doesnt mean you did anything wrong. Sorry it didnt work out, but it happens.
SmoochieFace Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 JOHNM did fine except for the text part. Next time, do it in person. Nevertheless... her loss the way I see it. Movies are not necessarily bad for the first date. It's considered a 'safe' situation (other people around, etc.). Going to dinner afterwards is good too as you two now have an opportunity to talk about the film and related subjects. I speak from experience in that regard.
monkey00 Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Reply: It would be hard for a woman to get fresh air, space, and have potential room to escape -IF it does go wrong. Sand&Water unless she's tied down how about getting up and leaving
Author JohnM Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 I don't understand this sometimes to be honest, Why must things always signal something else. I mean If the roles were reversed and I was the other person in this I wouldn't have a problem with it.
alphamale Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 don't ask me for advice anymore JOHNM...I am very dissapointed.
dgiirl Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 unless she's tied down how about getting up and leaving I knew of a girl who went to a movie on a first date with this guy. The guy was totally rude and obnoxious. So once the movie started, she excused herself to the bathroom and never came back See, movies are not TOO bad. Atleast you have about 1.5 hrs to get a taxi and get out of there before he starts to wonder what's taking you so long in the ladies room.
alphamale Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 I knew of a girl who went to a movie on a first date with this guy. The guy was totally rude and obnoxious. So once the movie started, she excused herself to the bathroom and never came back hah ha ha DGIIRL...maybe it was a combo of him AND a crappy movie!
confusedgeek Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Wow lots of mean people here. Texting the question of asking someone out is just as hard as asking someone else out in person. The guy put himself out on a limb just trying to ask someone out. I dont really see how it is easy for any guy to do that. Kudos to you JohnM. Hopefully it will work out better for you next time. - ConfusedGeek
clatan Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 I kind of agree with another poster. Don't ask: Tell. But maybe another way is to suggest. As in... Dude: Do you like such and such? Chick: Yeah as a matter of fact, I do. Dude: We then we ought to go do such and such sometime. Chick: That sounds like fun. Dude: I bet you wouldn't have plans on a Tuesday night would you? Chick: Well no, I don't usually go out during the week. Dude: Then where do you live? I'll come get you Tuesday night.
Author JohnM Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 don't ask me for advice anymore JOHNM...I am very dissapointed. What the **** is this? Just because I decided to go with other posters views which appealed to me you're disappointed in me because of that? I don't need this crap. I'm all for constructive criticism, I understand it was a mistake to not do it in person and take that to heart. It was a spare of the moment decision and I don't regret putting out there tbh, theres no false signs in there now. She knows how I feel now and I feel better for it. To be honest we've talked more since that text than we ever have before, hell I'm confident I can swing this one my way given some time, this door ain't closed. Thanks to the people who replied to this thread with balanced views when telling me where I went wrong.
Pyro Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 What the **** is this? Just because I decided to go with other posters views which appealed to me you're disappointed in me because of that? I don't need this crap. I'm all for constructive criticism, I understand it was a mistake to not do it in person and take that to heart. It was a spare of the moment decision and I don't regret putting out there tbh, theres no false signs in there now. She knows how I feel now and I feel better for it. To be honest we've talked more since that text than we ever have before, hell I'm confident I can swing this one my way given some time, this door ain't closed. Thanks to the people who replied to this thread with balanced views when telling me where I went wrong. Don't get upset JohnM. Some people are just always right. There is really nothing you can do about it.
Author JohnM Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 Sorry about the rant there, I know what you mean. I'm off to go throw some shapes out on the town now, wish me luck
Pyro Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Sorry about the rant there, I know what you mean. I'm off to go throw some shapes out on the town now, wish me luck Good luck, whatever that means.
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