blueman Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 ok so i have had a ldr with my gf from day one. We have been together for 2 years now and she lives 220 miles away from me. Ever since we frst started dating we have alwyas talked on the phone and made an effort to stay see each other every other weekend. Well lately i feel that i am the one going to see her more as well as i cant seem to have a conversation with her for more than 5 minutes. Tonight i went to a party as did she and i told her to have fun. Well at my party i had this girl come n tome very strong and i decided to leave the party because it was a bad situation. I called my gf to see how she was doing and she told me she was at a party of about 10 people 6 being guys and that 3 STRIPPERS had just shown up and she had been drinking. well i felt uncomfortable but she said shed be leavign in a bit and wuld call me and i said good because its been a few days since we have talked and id like to have a little convo before we went to sleep. 2 hours later i text her saying im waiting for her call and no response then i text her again saying that i am goign to sleep and no response then i call her and she anwers on the first ring???? so i say were you going to text or write me and she says she didnt hear her phone and that they are not leaving the party for a while so i say well i thought we would be talking tonight and it ends up into an argument regarding her saying i ruin any chance she gets to go out and i dot give her enoguh space. Im sorry im all for parties and fun but space???? she is 220 miles away and we have not tlaked over 5 minutes for the past week and she hasnt seen me for the last 2 weeks!!!!!!!! on top of that she is at a GATHERING where there are strippers!!!!!!! before i got off the phone she said **** yu and your being an ******* so now im left with whether to call **** quits or what. I love this girl but afte rthe last 2 weeks i dont know what to do. please help a confused guy thanks
littlekitty Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Were they male strippers?! I have to ask! Although having 3 female strippers at the party would insinuate it's quite a party, I'm not sure why you would be so concerned about your girlfriend seeing them? Usually it would be the male who would be in trouble for that one! Also, how old are you both? LDR's are hard work, and require a lot of communication. Have you talked with her about the lack of conversation recently? Why have you not seen each other for 2 weeks? Her behaviour does sound disrespectful, and if she agreed to call you, she should have done so. Even if it was just to tell you she had decided to stay longer at the party and would talk another time. I think the space comment was just something that came out in the heat of the moment. She was probably having a good time with friends. You then called her and spoke to her when you left your party. At a guess I'd say she probably got caught up in the party, and didn't want to leave. You then texted her, and texted her, and then called her. Perhaps by that time she just felt a little tied to her phone, rather than able to enjoy the party. I'm not saying she's right, just playing devils advocate here...! What you need to do is talk to her about how you feel, about what happened, and find out what is going on.
Author blueman Posted November 1, 2006 Author Posted November 1, 2006 they were female strippers but at the same time my worry is that if she is having fun at a party where there are female strippers than thats a party id rather her not be attending while i am 240 miles away and have no idea what is going on. She told me that i need to give her more room and i am suffocating her when shes out at a party. She is 21 i am 22 and she is currently taking anti depressant's called effexor because she has serious bi polar. I am lost on what to do and i am worried that she will drink alot tonight to spite me and end up doign soemthing stupid at the party.
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