chewy01234 Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Ok so I'll break it down nice and easy. I knew this girl for about a year kinda. She is a friend of a friend I met a few times, she seemed nice. This weekend past we hung out for like 24 hours straight and then some. A little cuddling ensued and I didn't make a move. *Not gonna lie, she is a lot more attractive than me but I can make her laugh any time i want and she thinks im really smart and what not. I know I have an amazing personality but im nowhere near as good looking as her. She go to college about 6 hours away so that sucks but... Here is where I need help. Does she like me? Reasons I think she likes me: -She said I'm gonna miss you before I left -She has said I miss you like 4 times since ive been gone. (which was only 2 days ago) -She called me the night i left with the excuse of a crossword puzzle but we talked for like 2 minutes. -She used to never be on AIM but now she comes on just to talk to me. (I said why are you on AIM all of a sudden and she says to talk to you) -She has posted on my live journal saying how awesome I am and that she needs my email address cos im not always on AIM like i said i would be -I told her I liked her and she said she liked me (but i dont know how she took it or how she meant it) -She went and friended me on every site like...myspace, facebook and Livejournal -She always IMs me first -She REALLY wants me to come back soon -and a few more i can't recall. seems pretty obvious right? well... Reasons I think she DOESNT like me: -She has a lot of close guy friends that she'd never date -She called me friend a few times, like HELLO FRIEND and the big one -She told the friend that I met her through "Im scared that jack likes me" (im jack btw lol) So my stupid friend told her I did and they talked about it a little and this girl wanted my friend to tell me that she "doesn't like me like that." so....I feel like its pretty clear cut. Since she said that I should move on. I mean I'm not heart broken or anything I just really friggin liked her. I have to go back in two weeks cos i got a ticket near there so should I give up? or try and see how things go? should I be aggressive and see if she backs down?
CollegeWTF Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Tough call man.. It sounds like she could like you..or she could like the attention. I have caught myself in the same situation, except I was on the other end. I knew I didn't want a girlfriend but, it was nice having that person to talk to.. She is 6 hours away, maybe wait it out, see if you get to see her again but, don't push it and don't throw yourself in.. Listen to your gut, it is telling you something..
Author chewy01234 Posted November 1, 2006 Author Posted November 1, 2006 Well the thing is my gut is telling me she likes me but only because all the things she is doing are things I know I do when I like someone. But my theory is she gets guys to like her so she feels better about herself. That's why she has so many guy friends because she likes the attention. I told my friend she shouldn't have told her I liked her and then she was like "no its ok this kind of thing happens to her all the time she isn't freaked out" and I was like "EXACTLY! She purposely throws out false signals to make guys want her just boost her self esteem." I'm pretty sure girls do this kind of thing. Right? Ladies? Am I crazy?
Author chewy01234 Posted November 1, 2006 Author Posted November 1, 2006 Can I get a ladies POV on this? Should I give up or be aggressive? Go for physical, maybe a kiss or something? What do you think?
Author chewy01234 Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 My friend who was told by the girl i like she wanted to be friends has given me the advice of just forgetting it. Is this the right thing?
MadDog Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 You think too much dude. Just keep hanging out with her and it'll be clear whether she's into you or not. As to whether you should make a move, just go with the flow. It'll be blatantly obvious when the time is right. In fact, it'll feel weirder not to make a move. I've noticed what tons of people lack is patience. They go on one date and they obsess over whether the other persons into them or not. Why not go on several dates at least and see where it leads instead of getting ahead of yourself? MD
Author chewy01234 Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 I guess you could say I lack patience...lol. I guess you could say it's my biggest flaw. ha. Thanks man. that really put **** in prespective.
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