Treadstone Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Dearest Forumers, My ex and I broke up about 2 months ago and, for some stupid reasons, she left some of her stuff behind when she moved out of our home. I've finally decided to tie the loose ends so I'm making arrangements for her to get the rest of her stuff out of my place. She has indicated (appear to insist for whatever reason) that she will like to come to my place and pick them up herself. I told her I'll rather prefer to drop it off her place which is half a block away from me. I don't know which is better - allow her to come here to pack and take her stuff or should I pack them and drop it off her place? I do not want to give this girl the slightest bit of power over me. And, since I decide how she gets her stuff I need to know which will be the stronger position to take and why. Thank you all for your support. Will appreciate as much input on this as possible so I can reach a decision for tomorrow night. Treadstone.
bendit Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Drop the stuff off at her place then leave asap. You have more control if you deliver. If she comes over, she may decide to stay and mess with you. Don't let her push you around. You call the shots. Time to BE STRONG and get this sordid mess behind you. Make sure there is NOTHING of hers left behind. That's a Control tactic to keep you on a leash. Remember. STRENGTH. regards
Guest Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 I would take the things to her.. Trust me, if she comes over to pack the rest of her things it gives the feeling she is leaving you all over again... Do you want that feeling again? Besides it might make her wonder what your up too.. Do you still want to be with her? Remeber playing hard to get might get that attention you want..
dr strangelove Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Look dude if you want an excuse to see her then you keep aside some of her stuff and as well met her in person to give her the stuff. If she drops by, theres a possibility that she would want to hang out. If you wish to have anything to do with her any longer then you drop the stuff off at her place and leave quickly. I remember when my ex dropped stuff at my buddies place. But not all of it and I knew it wasnt over because of that. As long as one has something that belongs to the other the excuse to meet is always there. l
KittenMoon Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Just drop it off, prefereably if she's not there. The "stuff" thing is annoying. I'm STILL waiting for some items to be returned (broke up 9 months ago), they've been offered to be dropped off now at least three times over 5 months or so, and despite the fact that he has a key to my apt house's door (which leads to a foyer by my front door) and could just drop it off at any time w/o me seeing him regardless of if I'm home or not, he still hasn't. It... is... aggravating. Let me just tell you, I would like these items returned, however I've now written them off several times only to get the new offer. Do yourself a favor, get it over with quick and NOW. Resist the temptation to hold onto it.
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