hindsfeet Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 how long should you wait before you get involved with someone?
Guest Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 do u mean after a breakup? if so its really up to you and when u feel ready too. Theres no right or wrong
StayClose Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 A day or so. Actually waiting too long can be worse that moving too soon. Wait too long and you're in the friend zone.
Author hindsfeet Posted November 1, 2006 Author Posted November 1, 2006 in a new relationship, is what im talking about. i dont wanna rush things. but i dont wanna be bored also. and i dont want her to think i dont respect her. so how long or when do you know it is ok to 'make a move'?
DanielMadr Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 in a new relationship, is what im talking about. i dont wanna rush things. but i dont wanna be bored also. and i dont want her to think i dont respect her. so how long or when do you know it is ok to 'make a move'? Respect? Is she your lover or boss? Make a move when you feel she is ready. If you are not sure she is in to you, kiss her. If she invite it...hoooray. Wait with sex until 3rd date. Waiting any longer....she is playing you.
luvtoto Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 in a new relationship, is what im talking about. i dont wanna rush things. but i dont wanna be bored also. and i dont want her to think i dont respect her. so how long or when do you know it is ok to 'make a move'? Oh my gosh. In a new relationship, if you rush things...it will be fun then it quickly dies down. Quickly! I've been dating a new guy for a month now. I can tell he wants to move faster...but, I am holding back some. I am NOT a game player. I just have been hurt really bad before and something inside of me just *clicked*. I don't let guys get too close to me at first. I am not necessarily talking sex, or kissing or touching...Hell, make your move! I mean, I don't talk about my feelings much. I don't let him know how I feel. I just give him little tiny bites, per say. I also asked him he could just call on Tues. & Thurs. cause I need balance in my life. He can't have all my time. I am a single mother of two kids!! ANYWAYS...he really respects me and when he IS with me, he can't seem to get enough. So far, I am the only girl he has ever taken home to mom. He's 34. Let me repeat. I am not playing games. I am establishing boundaries and LOVING SMART. My advice is take it slow and easy.
DanielMadr Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Let me repeat. I am not playing games. I am establishing boundaries and LOVING SMART. My advice is take it slow and easy. Yeah yeah...you are playing him. Establishing boundaries? You should be president in Bosnia:) Being detached (cold) is defence. Against who? Him? I wouldnt like it. Imagine...when he starts to be suspicious about your motives Slow and easy....hmmm....in that case find at least two other girls....to have backup or you spend whole year dating for nothing.
luvtoto Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Yeah yeah...you are playing him. Establishing boundaries? You should be president in Bosnia:) Haha!! Yes! I'm establishing boundaries. I've only been dating this guy for one month! Got any suggestions on what I'm doing wrong in this relationship so far? Yea, I'm a player...playing it SMART!!
DanielMadr Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 Haha!! Yes! I'm establishing boundaries. I've only been dating this guy for one month! Got any suggestions on what I'm doing wrong in this relationship so far? Yea, I'm a player...playing it SMART!! Just curious.....kiss already happend?
luvtoto Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Just curious.....kiss already happend? Yes, we have kissed. He knows I like him. I am not toying with his emotions here. Let's put it this way...I don't spend needless hours wondering if he likes me. That's a waste of time. That's for him to decide anyways. I don't spend needless hours wondering where this relationship is going right now. I am letting that happen in due time. NO rushing to the alter. He doesn't need to know my inner thoughts just yet. Hell, I don't even know exactly how I feel about him yet. Like I said, I don't give it much thought. I will tell him someday in the near-ish future...just not now.
allina Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I am not playing games. I am establishing boundaries and LOVING SMART. Someone's been reading the Dr. Phil books
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