Davis Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 I have been doing NC for 4 weeks. My ex broke up with me and went back to her ex that's a druggie and abusive. My friend tells me today that I was not very nice to my ex. Ouch. Ok. I'll take responsibility. I said some things that were not very nice. It wasn't blatantly mean and not intentionally mean, but I can see how it hurt her feelings and changed her feelings for me. Fck! I did it so I could keep emotional distance. Then my friend tells me that my ex chose a druggie/abuser over me. Ouch again. Nice. I'm lower than that loser? I just ran across some pics of us from Labor Day. We look great together. She looks great. We were a good match. Now I am stupidly thinking I want to email her and the photos and say something like "hope you and your kids are doing well. I didn't know if you had copies of us from Labor Day. I'm truly sorry that I hurt you". But then my sensible side says "don't do it. you will undo all 4 weeks. she's not ready. she's happy with her ex. she's over you. she needs to be the one to contact you since she broke up with you". Now what do I do?
KT18 Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 She may not know that you want to speak to her. She may think that you dont want to talk to her. I would send the email. But then again I am a woman who has no idea either. How can you tell?? You must expell all doubts. Maybe if you want her back give it one last go, if she doesnt respond then you know, dont you? Who am I to give advice. Do what you think is right in your heart. KT
simon_uk Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 If she wanted copies of the pictures, she would ask you for them. Dont send them, keep your power. Its tough but its in your best interests.
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