RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 It seems like everytime I meet a woman, she automatically sees me as a friend and nothing more. How do I avoid being stuck as "just a friend"?
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 It seems like everytime I meet a woman, she automatically sees me as a friend and nothing more. How do I avoid being stuck as "just a friend"? maybe your not being a big enough pig j/k
MadDog Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 Be good-looking and more importantly, make lots of money. If you go from being broke to making bank, you'll notice how all of a sudden lots more women are willing to let you get into their panties. MD
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 Be good-looking and more importantly, make lots of money. If you go from being broke to making bank, you'll notice how all of a sudden lots more women are willing to let you get into their panties. MD geese we give such good advice!! Yup money-panties that'll work lol ....funny stuff
Author RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 I got a good laugh, but now I really need serious advice. can anyone help me? How to avoid being stuck as just a friend?
SoCalCatman72 Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 How to avoid being stuck as just a friend? I've struggled with this problem myself for a while. What has worked for me is to make it apparent from the beginning that you are interested in them as more than friends. Yeah it's a risk, but as we say in investments, no risk, no rewards.
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 I got a good laugh, but now I really need serious advice. can anyone help me? How to avoid being stuck as just a friend? lol k sorry buddy, Well how is it that you act towards these girls that they think you are just a friend? Say your interested in her, what do you do to prove this? Is it after you have gone on a few dates, or just meeting someone? that it doesnt even lead to dating at all?
ShoeGirl Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 Honestly you probably need to be more agressive and let her know you want to be more than friends from the start. She might hope that you like her as more than friends but won't make the first move because she doens't want to get turned down. One of you has to take that risk... and most girls don't like to unless they are pretty sure they won't get turned down. What have you go to lose?
Author RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 what are some things I can do to show the girl that I want to be more than friends?
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 what are some things I can do to show the girl that I want to be more than friends? -Well if you feel confident enough you could tell her. -But otherwise I would show interest in thigns she likes and when shes talking. -Be affectionate -introduce her to your friends -Take her out to nice places - buy her flowers! -make sure she feels important and respected -compliment her -be honest
Author RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 do you believe in leagues? If a woman is beautiful, does that automatically make her out of my league? I am not the most attrative guy in the world, by far, so I definitely believe in "leagues".
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 do you believe in leagues? If a woman is beautiful, does that automatically make her out of my league? I am not the most attrative guy in the world, by far, so I definitely believe in "leagues". See thats a tough one. I don't really think I beleive in "leagues" I dated a guy that was much more less attractive than me for 4 years. If the girl is very nice and truely cares and loves you I don't really think it would matter. I mean of coruse being attracted to your partner is very important, but there are a lot of average ppl that have very good looking boyfriends/girlfriends I just feel bad for guys/girls that are less attractive because ppl always wonder why thier with them, which is so harsh, ppl always use to ask my ex how he got me and other guys always use to ask my why I was with him. I defiently didn't break up with him because I was no longer attracted to him, he was a goof and we didn't have anything in common anymore...I grew up faster.
Author RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 could looks be my problem? This picture was taken about 45 seconds ago......be brutally honest. http://s58.photobucket.com/albums/g254/RyTom21/?action=view¤t=HalloweenParty2006073.jpg&refPage=&imgAnch=imgAnch1
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 could looks be my problem? This picture was taken about 45 seconds ago......be brutally honest. http://s58.photobucket.com/albums/g254/RyTom21/?action=view¤t=HalloweenParty2006073.jpg&refPage=&imgAnch=imgAnch1 Whoa close up! lol I wouldn't consider you ugly at all. its a very close pic though lol, I think you should cut your hair a bit shorter and dye it brown. K your not fat, you don't have some freakishly big, forhead nose etc. Teeth play a big factor to me but I didn't see them, your skin isn't horrible. You could go tanning! I like tanned ppl! plus that helps get clear skin.
Author RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 would you even go as far as to say that i'm cute...or would that be pushing it?
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 would you even go as far as to say that i'm cute...or would that be pushing it? yea you could be cute for sure, I don't even know you and personality makes ppl good looking too, I know guys that I thaught were so hot and when I got to know them I honestly saw them ugly and that was only one pic of you and it was 45 sec ago!
Author RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 Here are some other older pictures: http://www.freewebs.com/vbrtk/myphotos.htm
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 Here are some other older pictures: http://www.freewebs.com/vbrtk/myphotos.htm yes you could be cute
StayClose Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 To avoid being tagged as a friend, flirt by saying things that imply the two of you hooking up. Invite her to a night-time activity. No 2 pm coffee date at Starbucks! Your face isn't great but it's not bad. Work out in a gym and get buff & cut and girls will come after you.
Mythical Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 To avoid being tagged as a friend, flirt by saying things that imply the two of you hooking up. Invite her to a night-time activity. No 2 pm coffee date at Starbucks! Your face isn't great but it's not bad. Work out in a gym and get buff & cut and girls will come after you. aha! yes the buffness is a very good thing!
Author RyTom21 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 I think my biggest problem is that I dont like myself, and I dont think i'm attractive. whenever I see a woman who is even moderately attractive, I start hearing these voices in my head that tell me that I dont have a chance in hell with this girl. i dont know how to stop those voices. I endured alot of teasing as a kid, mostly about the way I look. do you agree that every woman is different when it comes to her idea of good looking? do you believe that some women could look at me and say i'm ugly, but at the same time, others could look at me and say that I'm the hottest guy alive?
StayClose Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 Actually your picture reminds me of the character Jim from the TV show "The Office." There are two archetypes of male faces that women are a attracted to: the cuddly baby-face, and the tough macho face. You're closer to the tough macho face, where smothness isn't as important as a look of strength. That's why if you buffed your body out, women who are into the strong macho thing would really be into you.
consternation Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 For gods sake mate, stop whining about your appearance. If you think even moderately attractive women are out of your league, go for ugly chicks. I personally wouldn't find you attractive unless you had a hot body and/or you had a bit of charisma, style etc happening in real life. What's most unattractive is any man that whines like a bitch about only being seen as the nice guy, blah blah, harden up! Maybe you should stop being so obsessed with appearance and go for someone who might have an inner beauty. Also, a less attractive woman might relate to your insecurities more - probably the biggest pro. ps. hair cut might not be a bad idea.
DanielMadr Posted November 1, 2006 Posted November 1, 2006 It seems like everytime I meet a woman, she automatically sees me as a friend and nothing more. How do I avoid being stuck as "just a friend"? Simple. Dont act like her gay-friend. Give sexual vibe. Dont try to imitate eunuch monk. Flirt, tease. Friend zone is not on path to being her lover...its dead end. Dont let her start using you as emotional tampon.
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