homecomputerpi Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 I've spent the last week researching the best way to go about getting a divorce. It's been really hard--I'm looking forward to my first counseling appointment tomorrow. Hopefully the counselor can tell me the best way to say this to my husband. This weekend I want to tell my husband that it is over. Life is short and I can't waste any more time! I've been dealing with his cheating (and many other problems) for years. Still, this will be the hardest conversation of my life. I need to get it over with. He says he loves me and I'm his reason for living. Yet,h e has no idea that this is coming because he doesn't know that I know about all his cheating. Any advice is welcome and appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Sounds like you two lost communication a long time ago. First of all, if you think the relationship is worth salvaging, you need to let him know you know about the infedelity and you want to move out and don't call him for a long time so he can realize how bad he **cked up. There may be a chance he might go get some help for his issues and if you want to forgive him things could still work out. If you don't love him anymore and you've reached the point of no return, you just need to seperate from him and tell him that things are over and you need to move on. Either way a decision needs to be made and you are the one that obviously is going to be making it. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 I've spent the last week researching the best way to go about getting a divorce. It's been really hard--I'm looking forward to my first counseling appointment tomorrow. Hopefully the counselor can tell me the best way to say this to my husband. This weekend I want to tell my husband that it is over. Life is short and I can't waste any more time! I've been dealing with his cheating (and many other problems) for years. Still, this will be the hardest conversation of my life. I need to get it over with. He says he loves me and I'm his reason for living. Yet,h e has no idea that this is coming because he doesn't know that I know about all his cheating. Any advice is welcome and appreciated! Harden your heart and do it. This is what your heart is telling you and only you know your situation. You can write about it but no one really knows what you are really going through. If you strongly feel it then it is the right thing to do. Do not waste more time! Life is short and if you feel that nothing has changed in years then LET IT GO! Link to post Share on other sites
homecomputerpi Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Thank you Rooster, I really appreciate your advice. I've pretty much reached the point of no return and need to get this over with. I guess I should refocus my question to say, is there a way to stay friends after asking for a divorce? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 is there a way to stay friends after asking for a divorce? Are you sure you want to? This man, your husband, has obviously caused you alot of pain, enough to want to divorce him. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 even with the history my ex and I have remained friends. Hasnt been easy but it can happen Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 I've spent the last week researching the best way to go about getting a divorce. It's been really hard--I'm looking forward to my first counseling appointment tomorrow. Hopefully the counselor can tell me the best way to say this to my husband. This weekend I want to tell my husband that it is over. Life is short and I can't waste any more time! I've been dealing with his cheating (and many other problems) for years. Still, this will be the hardest conversation of my life. I need to get it over with. He says he loves me and I'm his reason for living. Yet,h e has no idea that this is coming because he doesn't know that I know about all his cheating. Any advice is welcome and appreciated! Wait.. so your husband has been cheating for *years* and yet you never confronted him about it? What do you expect were to happen? It's called COMMUNICATION. Ever think about Marriage Counseling? You have nothing to lose by doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Thank you Rooster, I really appreciate your advice. I've pretty much reached the point of no return and need to get this over with. I guess I should refocus my question to say, is there a way to stay friends after asking for a divorce? Why do you want to stay friends? Do you have kids together? I am friends with my ex-partner of 8 years although when I left him he was extremely bitter. However, we have a child together which has led us to making an effort to get along with each other for his sake if nothing else. Saying that, I am not sure that we would've stayed in touch if it wasn't for him. Link to post Share on other sites
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