STINGPH Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 I have been dating/seeing this Romanian guy for over 2 years. Besides the phone calls through out everyday during this period, he was coming to my house just about every night, and when ever possible I would go to his house. (I have 2 children & live by myself with them 12 & 5 years old) This was ok for me up until recently when I got to thinking we do not spend enough time together...When he comes to my house it is always after midnight, most times I have already fallen asleep. He wakes me up & we talk, watch TV, and drink some wine. These nights do not always end up in sex. We do have sex, but not everynight he comes over. He usually falls asleep & I am up after being woke, watching TV, smoking cigaretts, until I fall back to sleep also. He spends part of the morning with me & my kids on Sat & Sun but he is gone during the week because he works. As I said he called me everyday and always treated me very well. Until he asked me to go to a baptism in NY, & I said yes, but at the last minute told him that that baby ment nothing to me & why should I be travling so far for this... (This due to when I asked him to go to my niece & nephews baptism he said he had nothing to wear)...He does not go to my childrens' birthday parties, he gives me the money to have the party, but he will either be working or cannot make it to the party. (he did go to my 5 year olds birthday party once). I have gone to many parties with him, and away for a weekend in VT. I feel have tried in this relashonship...and after 2 years he should be a little more a part of our lives. After I said what I did above about the baptism, he went to NY with out me and didn't tell me he was going he just did not answer my calls...So I went to his house the next day & gave him his key back & made him give me mine. I did call him after that to make up and we did. Than this weekend, he asked me @ the last minute to go to a party he was invited to that evening. (says he didn't know b-4 9:00 pm). As you know I would have a hard time finding a babysitter at such a late hour on a Sat. I had asked him earlier in the day if he was going to come to see me tonight, and he told me he would call me later. He called @ 9:00 pm with the news of the party. I feel knowing I could not get a baby sitter, & he said he was going anyway with out me, and didn't want me to wait up for him. I hung up the phone with him & called a baby sitter & by a stroke of luck got one. I tried several times to call him but he did not answer the phone. I left messages telling him I found a babysitter, and that I was on my way to his house and that if he was not there I would just show up @ the party (I know where it was located). I called once more before I made it to his door & he answered the phone to say he was not going to this party. I said fine I will come to your house & we will talk about some things. Well when all was said he replied that he is not ready or able to do this and that he was not the one for me and he was sorry that I wasted my time on him...(as to previously I said he would have to tell me if I was not the one for him and he would have to tell me to move on). **Just to let you know how he came up with this statement as to his english is not very good)... Does anyone think there is hope for this situation? Or is he just immature...? HELP I need some advice.
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