user1 Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Background: I have been dating a guy for a month. 2 weeks ago, my borderline personality disorder X girlfriend tried to get fixed up with him behind my back, but was unsuccessful. She then met HIS X girlfriend through a mutual friend, and they have plotted to break us up by making up a lie that I was telling people that my new boyfriend was "messy and domineering", which was actually what HIS X girlfriend told people why SHE broke up with HIM. apparently, the X is still in love with him and has remained his "friend" after he dumped her. she called him up to tell him that I supposedly said this about him. she told him that he should be careful of me. I have never seen or talked to her in my life; this all came about when my evil X girlfriend came over for lunch with me at my date's house, and she stole his business card behind my back and started this mess. When I last spoke to my boyfriend one week ago, we had an arguement when he told me that his X girlfriend called to warn him about me because she "wants him to be happy and to be careful". I was hurt and told him that he was choosing her over me if he believed her lies. Then, he claimed that I WAS JEALOUS. He claimed I was making him choose his "friends" over me. He says that she is a really nice girl, and that she still cares about him, and that hurt her terribly when he dumped her, and she really cares about him. Right. I know that she still goes over to give booty. Since then, he has not called me for a week except for 2 text messages stating: "thinking of u..." and "can't wait til u arrive" ( I will be visiting him this weekend). I have called him at least 2 times this week, but he has not picked up the cell phone (he can see it is me via ID). I also text messaged him back, with no response. is he trying to dump me by purposely not responding to me? I am supposed to go visit this weekend. Is he telling me something by not calling me anymore? he used to call me at least every other day. now, nothing. not a call all week. We are long distance, Arizona-California. both almost 40 years old. both physicians. his X-girlfriend: technician. my X female friend: physician. isn't it sickening and high school? Signed, Grossed Out but hurting.
Walk Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Run, screaming for the hills. This is childish. You're an adult. They are not. Why are you wasting your time on him? He might be a great guy, but no matter what, that scheming ex, and loser ex friend are going to ALWAYS be trouble. I don't know what to tell you other than that. There's way too much drama. Too much 'he said, she said' BS that doesn't need to be there, and he's siding with the ex. He won't call you. He thinks you're going to travel across the country and he doesn't have to even give you a 5 minute call? Even just a "hey, got your message, call me back." Run. That's all I can really suggest. This sounds like it'll only get worse. Don't put yourself through the stress, heartache and financial loss of going to see him. He either shows some actually desire to talk to you, or drop him for good.
DanielMadr Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 What is border line personality disorder? Mumbo jumbo for Bytch?
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