Guest Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 My ex broke up with me saying that he needs space to take care of his life because things are so messed up and he's been troubled for 10 years. HE said before he met me he was never happy but he went NC for more than 2 months. I called, i texted, and no response. He acknowledges me when we bump into each other but nothing more. DOes he still love me? IS he just taking care of his business? Does he still think about me? Its so painful to be like this after a year of history. I know I never gave him space before so this could be the only way he thought he can get space from me but does he realize how much it hurts me? and yet he still does it? does our history mean nothing to him? or is he just a bad guy? i'm so confused. if you are a "troubled" guy please help me and tell me what HE COULD be thinking..
Heart66 Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 I'm not a guy, and I cant speak factually for what is in someone else's head. But I recently went thru a similar thing. BF gave me the "I need time/space" thing. I flat out questioned if he was ending us, and was told "No--I just need to deal with some things." I accepted his word, gave him time/space, and patiently waited for things to get better. We spent a weekend together on a group road trip [planned b4 our "break"] and things went very well, leading me to think we were still going to work this out. Last we spoke, he left it at "I'll call you in a few days." That was 7 weeks ago! He's obviously avoiding me...and I am forced to assume that we are over, by way of his being too much of a coward to tell me the full truth! Now, just because my situation came to this, doesn't mean that yours is going to. Just trying to give you something to consider. Perhaps there is no "business to be taken care of," and he is gently trying to let you go. For your hearts sake, I hope I'm wrong! But you sound the way I did...Hopeful for his return while beating myself up, and driving yourself crazy seeking answers for something that HE did! Again, I can't get into his head, nor do I know the background of your history with this guy. All I'm saying is look at this from both sides and prepare yourself for the possibility that this might be a cop-out and he may not return OR give you any answers! I'd venture to guess that he does think of you. My guy likely thinks of me too. But that doesn't mean that either of them are going to return or even respect us enough to give us the answers were looking for and deserve. COWARDS. Continue this with your eyes wide open.Take care of YOU! Accept what is in front of you, Heal, and move forward--Good, bad or indifferent! Easier said than done...I know. But I have gotten soooo much better--I even met someone new. And if need be--you will too! Good luck.
AloneNow125 Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 We spent a weekend together on a group road trip [planned b4 our "break"] and things went very well, leading me to think we were still going to work this out. Last we spoke, he left it at "I'll call you in a few days." That was 7 weeks ago! He's obviously avoiding me...and I am forced to assume that we are over, by way of his being too much of a coward to tell me the full truth! My man tried to end things with me the same way, and we were engaged! After weeks of panic I sent him an emotional e-mail telling him I'd know it was over if I didn't hear from him by the end of the week and that he would have to live the rest of his life knowing what a coward he was. He caved in and called, but then the next week he ended it. As cowardly and insulting as it is, this is how men choose to end it sometimes. It saves them pain and it saves them from facing the consequenses of what they've done, breaking your heart completely. Good luck with it...
Guest Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 ps...How old are you guys? i'm 22 and he's 27. is it that easy to let go if he tells me im the best thing that happened to him? he said i was the only one he ever loved and trusted. he was always scared to lose me before when i wanted to break up. could it be that hes jus stressed? he told me he wants space until december or something. it's almost my bday. will he care to call? ;(
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