Guest Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 So here is my dilemma... Hello all, I am in my early 20s, live and go to school in TX, and am here because I have the same problem as everyone else - relationships... I have been talking to a girl for nearly 5 months long distance (knew her about a month before she moved). Things are great, we get along well, have great conversation, and do love each other - but we haven't quite moved out of the talking stage into a formal relationship. The problem arises that I am falling for my best friend with whom I also get along with very well, have great conversation, and spend much of my free time with. At this point for a few days now I am involved with both of them, which road am I supposed to take? The LDR is the hard road and the best friend seems like the easy one, yet I don't know where either of them lead. I know I have messed up in dealing with two girls at once, and it seems like the only logical outcome is that one will get hurt and I already feel horrible for it. Fact remains I can't drag either one along and I am not sure if I would be 100% happy with the decision either way - the LDR is tough because of the limited amount of time I have to put into it and also that is the reason why the best friend option is so easy - she is here and I can have her now. Yet at the same time I can see the LDR girl as a long term option while I am not sure where the best friend will lead to and if it would even work out. At this point it's hard to resist a warm body in my bed vs a warm voice over the telephone...what do I do? - ConfusedInTX
norajane Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Do not get involved with your best friend because it's easy and she'd be a warm body in bed. She's your best friend, for pete's sake! If you are truly her friend, you'd treat her with respect and you wouldn't do anything to hurt her. And the way you're talking about her, it sounds like you will hurt her. So don't do it!! The LDR will never turn into anything unless one of you expresses your feelings. If you don't think you can make it work because of the distance, and if you don't think you can handle being involved with someone you can't see or touch, then don't do anything. Maybe start going out with other people and date someone you truly are interested in that lives in your area.
spider_freek Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 The choice is between which you love more. It doesnt matter how hard or easy it is to be with the person, if you choose the one you love less you may end up regretting it and the relationship will end up nowhere.
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