Bravo5 Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Ok, where do I begin. Let me start off this way. My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for about 1 year now. She lives in Texas and I live in Massachusetts. We have found the distance between us a huge obstacle to overcome, however it pales in comparison to other challenges that we have faced. Early on in our relationship, my girlfriend cheated on me with her daughter's father (who lives in TX also). She told me that it was only a kiss, but I honestly suspect more happened. 3 separate times in our relationship, she put things on hold so that she could go back to him. Her excuse to me was that she had to be sure that her "family" wasn't going to work. She said that this was for her daughter's sake. My girlfriend also has trouble with telling the truth. She has lied to me about everything from getting a leaking car tired replaced all the way to telling me that she was going out with "the girls" and spending the night with her ex. Then there was an incident when she was in Japan on Military Drill for 2 weeks. She just happened to be stationed at the same base as her exboyfriend form a few years prior. She told me that she wanted had no intentions on seeing him, however I caught her in lies when I found MySpace messages to this ex, saying that she wants to sneak out to see him, and then I found a picture of them together online. This was after she told me that when she saw him, she "immediately" left the bar. There have been so many little lies and inappropriate things that she has done over this past year, I do not know if I can move past it and learn to trust her again. I should say, I am not a saint either. While I have never physically cheated on her, I have flirted with women before. I am a flirt by nature. A female friend of mine once left a dirty message on my voice mail and my girl heard it. Another time I blaintly told a girl online that I thought she was "hot". My girlfriend now wants to move here to Mass with her daughter. I know I love her and I know she loves me. But how do I get over the past? How can I learn to trust her again? Am I kidding myself thinking that things will get better if she moves here? Please help!!!
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