bobee Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 How do you be an effective communicator in a relationship? Me and my girl are in a good relationship, she's real cool, and we been together for 3 months, but it seems like she does 90% of the talking and I do about 10% because I'm a quiet type of guy. I would like it to be 50/50 but I just DON'T know what to talk about. We basically talk about the same thing everyday (how was your day, what u up to, etc.) which can and DOES get boring, especially if the conversation doesn't last but about 5 minutes. I see friends of mine talk on the phone or in person all the time to women, and it just seems so easy and nonchalant to them, but whenever I try to do that, it always seems awkard, so for the most part I don't say anything worth listening to. Physically it's easy for me to get women, but verbally it's hard for me to hold on to a girl. All i'm asking is how can/do I be an effective communicator in a relationship, and keep my girl on her feet and not let her get bored and used to the same old thing everyday?......Hell, just what do guys talk about that keeps women interested!!? Thanks
Guest Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Just Were Not Meant To Be Together Communication Patterns Are The Best Indictor That's Life
Zaira Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Surely you have interests, whether mutual or personal you can discuss.. or even just giving your opinion on current events or controversial topics... anything really I wouldn't consider a relationship good unless we could communicate well
Walk Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Well.. my bf and I talk about everything under the sun. A lot about his job and things that frustrate him or he enjoys about it, because I really like to understand what he does and thinks during his days. I like to hear about how his days went, even if it's stuff he considers stupid or mundane. Otherwise, family, politics, hobbies, views on the future, neighbors, cost of living, food, music, sex, interesting stuff heard on the news.. whatever comes to mind. For a while I was having a hard time coming up with stuff to talk with my bf about, mostly cause my job was boring the daylights out of me. So I would read news articles for interesting stories. Either interesting to me, or to my bf, and then talk about them when we met up later that day. otherwise, I was stuck talking about work place gossip, and frankly, that was boring to me so I couldn't see how he'd be even minutely interested.... Last thought. My bf's a talker too. Which works out well because I don't normally talk very much. I don't think it's a bad thing, it balances us out. And sometimes, when I really just don't have anything to talk about, I'll just start asking him questions about things he likes, or about his job... that usually gets him started.. and he's a good story teller, so it's fun to listen to. If he runs out of things to talk about, then I ask him another question about something else.. his friends, or his family... then he's off on another tangent.. hahaha It works for us though.
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