mythikal Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 SO what do you look for in guy/girl first 1. Appearance 2. Attitude 3. Drive 4. Voice 5. Easyness :D Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 SO what do you look for in guy/girl first Physical attraction always comes first if you're meeting in person. It can come second if it's an online meeting. If I'm deciding whether I want to have a relationship with someone, then I do need to be attracted to them, but physically and mentally. I like someone who can communicate (and is HONEST) first and foremost. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I'm looking for someone that will make me feel butterflies Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 1. Appearance Link to post Share on other sites
tedrack Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I'm looking for someone that will make me feel butterflies BlueEyedGirl I know what you mean and I know what you're looking for. But can you please listen to this story? My girlfriend and I were talking on the weekend, she was telling me about her past dating experiences. When she was a teenager, she didn't date guys and was holding out for that one really special guy, the one (as you say) who makes her feel butterflies. If she was going to be with a guy she wanted it to be super duper special. Of course none of the average guys she met ever did this for her. Sounds familiar? You bet... it's classic. One day she was at the mall and passed by this guy she thought was terrificly good looking. Turns out he noticed her too and came after her. Later they started talking on the phone; she thought he was such an amazing guy, "so different from all the rest" because he was so good chatting on the phone. They talked for hours and he seemed to have a really good connection with her. "Wow," she thought to herself. "Not only is this guy super handsome but he's also super duper interesting and he really likes me." He did make her feel special, because he was a player and he was manipulating her to try and nail her. He was taking advantage of the fact she was physically attracted to him, but he was following it up by being extremely interesting, an excellent friend, and the model super duper guy a young woman wants. I've read a few of your posts, and I worry that the way you approach relationships with men is going to lead you down one of two routes: either getting used by a player who SEEMS like an extremely nice guy, or getting stuck with someone who has an unhealthy obsession with you (that might also seem super duper special at first) Also I must point out the kind of 'player' who does this does not seem rude, doesn't seem like an *******. Trust me, he won't have those characteristics you find undesirable because he will adapt to be desirable to you. Why do guys do this? Because a lot of young and naive women have ideals like yours, and let's face it young and naive women are great to sleep with. I'm not trying to be rude, just 100% honest Link to post Share on other sites
shawn_68 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I've read a few of your posts, and I worry that the way you approach relationships with men is going to lead you down one of two routes: either getting used by a player who SEEMS like an extremely nice guy, or getting stuck with someone who has an unhealthy obsession with you (that might also seem super duper special at first) Women date based on physical attraction primarily. There's nothing that you can do about it, Tedrack. If he's a player, he's a player. You can't "teach" her any lessons. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 5. Easyness Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 SO what do you look for in guy/girl first 1. Appearance 2. Attitude 3. Drive 4. Voice 5. Easyness :D I'm not going to lie. Appearance Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 SO what do you look for in guy/girl first 1. Appearance 2. Attitude 3. Drive 4. Voice 5. Easyness :D The first thing has to be looks. I am not going to get involved with someone that I am not attracted to. What is meant by easyness? Is it the easy-going attitude or the easy to lay type? Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 I've read a few of your posts, and I worry that the way you approach relationships with men is going to lead you down one of two routes: either getting used by a player who SEEMS like an extremely nice guy, or getting stuck with someone who has an unhealthy obsession with you (that might also seem super duper special at first) I refuse to beleive that a guy who is genuinly nice and the one who will make me feel butterflies are two mutually exclusive things. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 I refuse to beleive that a guy who is genuinly nice and the one who will make me feel butterflies are two mutually exclusive things. they can be the same in one without being a jerk/player. Attraction comes in all sizes, shapes, and forms. Appearance for me, then voice/attitude Link to post Share on other sites
CosmoBella Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 SO what do you look for in guy/girl first 1. Appearance 2. Attitude 3. Drive 4. Voice 5. Easyness :D First and foremost is Appearance, some say the attitude ... that's a lie. You have to be attracted to the other person to give them the time to even find out about their attitude. Then everything else comes after. Link to post Share on other sites
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