should I be concerned?!

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Hello! I'm know no one can tell if someone likes another person or not just from what I type in here, but I just felt like discussing this. So any help would be appreciated. I started working with a guy and have to spend a lot of time with him. I'm single but he is married. We joked around a lot and talked,and against my better judgment I may have let our conversations be more personal than just work related because we were in the car together a lot and it gets boring! But, it was nothing major-just something you would talk with a friend about, not a client. He also started touching my arm and my wrist a few times, and offering to buy me food and drinks.

 

I was talking and ALMOST touched his arm but caught myself and he smiled and started sitting closer.It's weird because I am supposed to be buying him stuff on the corporate account since he is the guest, not me on these trips. I asked if I could be put on another project without saying why, but I am stuck on this one it seems. I started treating him more in a business only matter, no joking around, very professional, etc. but he just seemed friendlier. I don't know, maybe I'm being paranoid. He even mentioned how he watched a movie where the characters were married and had an affair and ended up together. He didn't say much about it other than he watched it. He doesn't mention his family much other than that he told me to promise to not get married just for the sake of getting married, and that he got married kinda young. He seems pretty devoted to his children though.

 

Anyways, we get along really well and have a lot in common and I genuinely like him as a person...but I don't want to do anything with a married man...I don't even know if he is interested, but I don't want to lead him on and I'm stuck being with him a lot...what do you think? what should I do to avoid doing anything I may regret? I have a lot of self control, I'm not worried about that...more like worried about falling for him, or vice versa...this sucks!! I know I wouldn't actually physically do anything, but I don't know how much self-control he has...what topics are off limits, what amount of touching is ok, etc...

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Hello! I'm know no one can tell if someone likes another person or not just from what I type in here, but I just felt like discussing this. So any help would be appreciated. I started working with a guy and have to spend a lot of time with him. I'm single but he is married. We joked around a lot and talked,and against my better judgment I may have let our conversations be more personal than just work related because we were in the car together a lot and it gets boring! But, it was nothing major-just something you would talk with a friend about, not a client. He also started touching my arm and my wrist a few times, and offering to buy me food and drinks.

 

I was talking and ALMOST touched his arm but caught myself and he smiled and started sitting closer.It's weird because I am supposed to be buying him stuff on the corporate account since he is the guest, not me on these trips. I asked if I could be put on another project without saying why, but I am stuck on this one it seems. I started treating him more in a business only matter, no joking around, very professional, etc. but he just seemed friendlier. I don't know, maybe I'm being paranoid. He even mentioned how he watched a movie where the characters were married and had an affair and ended up together. He didn't say much about it other than he watched it. He doesn't mention his family much other than that he told me to promise to not get married just for the sake of getting married, and that he got married kinda young. He seems pretty devoted to his children though.

 

Anyways, we get along really well and have a lot in common and I genuinely like him as a person...but I don't want to do anything with a married man...I don't even know if he is interested, but I don't want to lead him on and I'm stuck being with him a lot...what do you think? what should I do to avoid doing anything I may regret? I have a lot of self control, I'm not worried about that...more like worried about falling for him, or vice versa...this sucks!! I know I wouldn't actually physically do anything, but I don't know how much self-control he has...what topics are off limits, what amount of touching is ok, etc...

stay away from his. Not only is he risking both of your jobs, but he is leaving himself wide open for sexual harrasment! This is not a good situation. Work and personal should not mix unless both parties are single and they feel fairly comfortable that their company would not have any problems with it. My guess is that he's done this before. Stand you ground and if he does not leave you alone after your've made your intentions crystal clear, then report him...What he did crossed the line and he is treading on thin ice..Not to mention that he made you feel uncomfortable at a job that you apparently are happy with. Throw him a bone and close the dog door!