katana Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Hi everyone, I've got this problem and thought I'd sign up here so I could get feedback from some people who don't already know me. I'm just beginning my sophomore year of college and "Johnny" and I have been dating since the summertime. Things are great, life is great, it's all great. So why does he suddenly want to spend the spring semester abroad -- in FRANCE? Land of smoochy smoochy girls! He's an econ major, so it's not like this is required for his degree. He's never been in a relationship for over six months, which may or may not be important (don't know). He says he's happy and doesn't want us to split up while he'll be gone in the spring, he just wants to get a taste of a different culture, etc. He says we'll spend hours on the phone and I can even come and visit if I can get the time and the airfare. How sincere is this? Half of me wonders if this is an easy way out for a guy who's afraid of commitment. The more credulous half believes that we can work out a long-distance relationship if there's an end in sight (May). I guess I'm skimping on a lot of the details because I'm afraid of boring everyone, but also maybe that's good because I can get a wide variety of responses if I don't tell you *everything.* It would also be good if I could hear from people who have been through this kind of long distance relationship in college before. Did it work? How or how not? Sorry to be so demanding, everyone, but I've got so many questions that hopefully at least a few people can jump in -- and don't worry, I won't be offended or scared if you want to deliver a harsh verdict! Thanks, Katana
magichands Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 in FRANCE? Land of smoochy smoochy girls! Don't fall for those stereotypes! They only kiss on the cheeks. I think. Hang on...then there's French kissing. Oh, nevermind. Wouldn't you want the opportunity to experience another culture? Trusting him whilst he's away is another issue entirely, but I would encourage anyone who is young to do this. Is he choosing smoochy smoochy France over you? No, I don't think so. Talk to him about his reasons. It might be enlightening. I do understand your trepidation, though. I would be porking anything and everything in sight. Just kidding.
peterparks Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Long distance relationships need extra care. Just make sure this is also what you want.
jletter Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 LDRs are doable only if there's a clear end in sight -- and in your case there is, when he comes back in May. In the meantime, you could probably have an awesome spring break in France. You could spend hours on the phone (use a prepaid calling account like you'd get through onesuite.com) and send e-mails and IMs quite a lot, also. You could be silly-romantic in an old-fashioned way with snail-mail. And when he comes back home it will be quite a giant step to have gone through. Juliet
oceanlove_gx Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 French kiss is just a kiss which not anybody can be used to the culture, ur bf's intention is to taste the culture, or taste the girls? lol Well, it's good to have a look at the world when young, but if ur bf can't speak french, i gurantee that u don't have to worry of his out of trail lol
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