missmay Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 All right. I know this is kind of a weird topic, but I am the only single girl in my group of friends. My three best girlfriends all are in serious relationships. Hell, even my best MALE friends have girlfriends (or boyfriends, in a certain case). I am so SO SO SICK of being the only one that is FREE. The thing is, I have accepted the fact that I am single and I probably will be single for awhile. But, my God, it annoys me so badly when all my friends can talk about is "how cute Rob was when this happened" or "Jake said the FUNNIEST thing!" (not funny). No one will go to the bar with me, because, hell, what's the point of going to the bar if you have a significant other! I mean, they still all hang out with me a lot but usually all they can talk about is their stupid relationships and ohmygoodnesshesaidthiswhatdoesthismean and their really boring sex stories. Should I just find some new freaking friends or just conform and try to get a boyfriend? GOD. thanks missmay
Lights Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Should I just find some new freaking friends or just conform and try to get a boyfriend? GOD. Find new friends and just new people in general, and if it's time, find a boyfriend. Or any combination of the above, or not, as suits your purposes. Finding an anything out of pressure to conform is not worth it. No one will go to the bar with me, because, hell, what's the point of going to the bar if you have a significant other! They haven't considered going to a new nightspot together as a date? Or as a mass outing? Or for practice in finding out how good their drunken style...ah, well, never mind. This sounds like a case of just needing to find people who share your preferred hangouts, regardless of their relationship status. I am so SO SO SICK of being the only one that is FREE. Why be sick of it? Free time is often a good thing. I know it's rough not having friends with compatible schedules (I'm in that situation myself, but for different reasons), but that doesn't mean you can't do things you find fun. But, my God, it annoys me so badly when all my friends can talk about is "how cute Rob was when this happened" or "Jake said the FUNNIEST thing!" (not funny). I mean, they still all hang out with me a lot but usually all they can talk about is their stupid relationships and ohmygoodnesshesaidthiswhatdoesthismean and their really boring sex stories. If it was me, I'd phase myself out of situations where this is likely to be the mainstay/majority of the interaction. I can't say what will work for you or how your relationships and meeting times with them work.
Kamille Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 You think this is bad, wait until they have kids! Seriously, you don't have to entirely renew your group of friend, but going out every once in awhile with new people could do you a lot of good.
kdark Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 I'm in the same boat as you... All my friends have significant others, so no chance of going to bars/clubs for me either... My solution I came up with that I am still working on was find a new group of friends...
xBroken2Piecesx Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Well, you should tell your friends that you're uncomfortable with the fact that they're always talking about their relationships and it's making you unhappy? But don't resort to finding a bf just to try to 'fit' in with your friends because that means that you like the idea of having a bf more than the bf itself.
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