DrPepper Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 My Ex-fiance and I were together for three years and have been through so much more than most relationships ever go through. We would have our problems but we were so in love that we always worked through them. We were homeless together for about 6 months where we lived in my car because we both had places to go but not where we could be together. We could not afford a place on our own. We had one, but lost it due to a landlord who said he had cancer and pneumonia and only had a few months to live and wanted to sell his property. He lied and ended up renting it out to his nephew instead. Well anyway, about 3 months ago we met this guy named John and his girlfriend Christie. John and Robert (my ex-fiance) instantly became friends and we soon moved in with them. John treated Christie horribly and within a month, he packed all of her stuff up and told her to get out. Not even a week later, he moved another woman and her teenage daughter in. Their relationship has been good as far as I know. Well in the past few weeks John suddenly started to push the issue of board money on to Robert and myself. I could not come up with my portion because I go to school full time. I work full time also but my other bills took up all of my paycheck. Robert could come up with his portion though. This past Thursday, John told me if I didn't have the money for rent when I got off of work not to bother coming back that night. John had been acting very wierd towards me for a while. He even told Robert that I reminded him of his ex, Christie, so I guess he had some resentment towards me. Thursday night, when I got off of work, I spent some time with Robert before I had to return to my mother's house to live. I cried so hard over the fear that this huge step backwards in our relationship was going to cause us to drift apart. He held me for hours and swore that that would not happen. He told me he would keep his phone right beside him all night, so no matter what time of night it was, I could call him and he would answer. He said nothing would tear us apart unless I let it tear us apart. I didn't understand why he didn't come with me or put up more of a fight for me but he said I can't expect to live somewhere for free. I went back to my mother's house and didn't get any sleep that night, but I called him at about 7:00 in the morning and sure enough, he answered. We told each other how much we loved each other and I left for work. This was our 3-year anniversary. He called off and on while I was at work to tell me he loved me and to ask me if I wanted to do something with him when I got off of work that night. I asked what we could do, but he said it was raining and that there probably wasn't much we could do. I agreed and told him that I would call him as soon as I got off work and was heading back to my mother's house. Well, I called him and asked him what he was doing and he said he was out with his friend Ed. This upset me so bad because if he couldn't spend time with me because it was raining, how could he spend time with someone else? I began to bawl which made him mad because he said it's nothing to cry over. We began to fight because I yelled at him that I couldn't believe that the one person I always expected to be there for me, wasn't there for me at all. He yelled that if I didn't stop that he would break things off with me and never answer the phone to me again. I yelled "Well do it then!!!" and hung up but I never expected him to follow through. I tried calling him that whole Friday night (our three year anniversary) but he wouldn't pick up the phone to me, which hurt so bad because the night before he told me to call whenever and he would answer to me. I tried the next morning (yesterday) to call him and he still wouldn't answer. That's when I remembered that I know the password to his voicemail. I just wanted to know if he had gotten my voicemails or just deleted them without listening to them. He had gotten them and also saved them but still refused to call me back. I decided to try calling a mutual friend, more his friend than mine, and he answered because I don't think he knew my phone number. I asked him if he knew what was going on and he said he wasn't sure but he just heard Robert saying that me and him are broken up and it's over. I know Robert wasn't cheating on me so I don't understand how someone who has always treated me with so much love and compassion and went out of his way to say "I love you" to me a million times throughout the day could be so cold and cruel. Sometimes I start to think about our relationship and all we've been through and I feel like I can't breathe because the pain is so great. I'm sure that the reason he can act the way he does is because John is behind him, constantly reassuring him that he's made the right decision, because the Robert I know would never do this to me. I'm just lost and bewildered because a week ago, I never thought that I would be in this predicament. I just don't know how to pick up the pieces and move on, because for the last three years, I've built my life around him and he was the only one I had there for me. All of sudden that was taken from me and I don't know where to turn. I never thought that he would break my heart this way. Now I'm a miserable mess and can't figure out what to do. We planned on getting married in the summer and having children after I graduated with my bachelors degree. My life totally changed in one night and all I do is keep asking why? WHY?!?
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