Guest Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 I used to date this man who was seperated for about two years. Two years ago I broke up with him because he claimed to love me but was still married (although living elsewhere). I went on with my life. The problem is that I still loved him and he claimed to love me. I ignored him, dated someone else, and tried to forget about him. The newer b/f did not work out. The chemistry was missing and we broke up. Recently I saw the seperated guy again. The same passion and spark is there between us. He has been seperated for four years now! He has a roomate and says that he was scared of getting a divorce because he is not good with money and wouldn't be able to manage everything on his own. He claims to still love me and even has suggested getting an apartment together. I still have strong feelings for him. I don't know many people who like him, but for some reason I am very fond of him. I told him I need time to think and I don't want to rush into anything. I don't want to be hurt again. He said he will take whatever he can get, even if that means just talking on the phone. We both have this connection, that is rare. We both have so much fun together, but I doubt he will change. He will prob just be seperated the rest of his life. Why would he claim to love me and still not let go of the marriage. I am definately going to take time with this.
BenThereDunThat Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 I used to date this man who was seperated for about two years. Two years ago I broke up with him because he claimed to love me but was still married (although living elsewhere). I went on with my life. The problem is that I still loved him and he claimed to love me. I ignored him, dated someone else, and tried to forget about him. The newer b/f did not work out. The chemistry was missing and we broke up. Recently I saw the seperated guy again. The same passion and spark is there between us. He has been seperated for four years now! He has a roomate and says that he was scared of getting a divorce because he is not good with money and wouldn't be able to manage everything on his own. He claims to still love me and even has suggested getting an apartment together. I still have strong feelings for him. I don't know many people who like him, but for some reason I am very fond of him. I told him I need time to think and I don't want to rush into anything. I don't want to be hurt again. He said he will take whatever he can get, even if that means just talking on the phone. We both have this connection, that is rare. We both have so much fun together, but I doubt he will change. He will prob just be seperated the rest of his life. Why would he claim to love me and still not let go of the marriage. I am definately going to take time with this. So many red flags....... He doesn't want to get divorced because he's not good with money??? Huh?? You just saw sep. guy "recently" and he's talking about getting an apartment together? You know many people don't like him... I just don't even know where to start! I'd be willing to bet anything that this guy's roommate is about to kick him out for one thing. You love him. Fine. But do you want to be his mother? Sounds to me like that's what he's looking for. Except for the already being married part, sounds a lot like my ex-husband. Just based on what you posted, sounds like he's the type that never grows up. He'll always be in the 13th grade.
Dayzie Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 He has a roomate and says that he was scared of getting a divorce because he is not good with money and wouldn't be able to manage everything on his own. he's been living away from his wife for the past 4 yrs so he's been doing it on his own right? Or is she still taking care of him? He's managed this far so he's got an issue with divorcing his wife period. I have to agree with what BenThereDunThat said, as hard as it is though, you need to move on from him. Chemistry and sparks will only get you so far in a relationship.
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