sscott0059 Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 Hi everyone, I've been visiting the forums for some time now and lots of great advice is given, so I'm hoping maybe you all can help me with a little issue My last girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 6 months now and we haven't talked to each other at all during that time. But I've found out that she has seen some of my friends and even a few members of my family several times and they tell me that she is always asking about me. I guess I'm wondering would still be asking about me a lot if she didn't still have feelings, or perhaps I'm reading too much into it? I do miss her and I still care for her. After our breakup, i was a no-contact for a long time and I just wonder if she may regret what she did and is trying to maintain some sort of connection to me by always asking about me? I know if her and I talked again I could hopefully get this cleared up, but I was just wondering what folks here thought about this. Thanks for reading!!
InvisibleTouch Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 If she ended the relationship then she must be the one to come back to you. In essence she rejected you and there is nothing you can do to change her stance on that. She on the other hand can. At the moment she is skirting the parameter of your life. Until she steps directly back into your life I would just let her skirt. In the meantime you move on and focus hard on looking ahead to the future rather than turning around and looking at the past.
Ssheena Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 When you run into her friends and/or family, do you ask how she is doing? To me it's kind of just a question that one asks. So how is so and so doing? Like asking about the weather. I wouldn't read too much into it or contact her (reopening slow to heal wounds). Make sure you tell your friends and family that if she does ask - you are doing GREAT.
Kamille Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 Letting go isn't easy is it? To me it sounds like all she is expressing isn't that she still has those kinds of feelings for you and wants to get back together, but that you are someone she really cared for. Keep going with NC. You sound like you're doing good.
Author sscott0059 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 When you run into her friends and/or family, do you ask how she is doing? To me it's kind of just a question that one asks. So how is so and so doing? Like asking about the weather. I wouldn't read too much into it or contact her (reopening slow to heal wounds). Make sure you tell your friends and family that if she does ask - you are doing GREAT. Hi Ssheena, Actually, I've been fortunate enough not to run into any of her family or friends over the last six months. I never ask how she's doing when people tell me she's asked about me either. I was skeptical that her still asking about me symbolized anything, but I was curious about her asking so often. I'm sure that as time goes on, these wounds will heal and I'll find someone better that wants to be with me and loves me. Thanks for your advice...i'll definatly tell them to tell her I'm doing great
Author sscott0059 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 Letting go isn't easy is it? To me it sounds like all she is expressing isn't that she still has those kinds of feelings for you and wants to get back together, but that you are someone she really cared for. Keep going with NC. You sound like you're doing good. Thanks, I feel like I am doing better, of course at night I seem to miss her the most. I think InvisibleTouch was right...until she actually steps back into my life, then I shouldn't even worry about it. I'm sure if she wanted to get back together, she would make some sort of effort besides just asking, you know? Oh, well, her loss as I see it
Author sscott0059 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Posted October 31, 2006 In the meantime you move on and focus hard on looking ahead to the future rather than turning around and looking at the past. Thanks! That's what I plan on doing. I think you're right...she's probably just wanting to know how I'm coping without her. Well, she can just skirt right along and I'll be on my merry way
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