BorrowedLove Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 My exe's background: My ex cheated on me, I took him back within about 5 hours. WITHOUT him asking for me to come back. He lied to me all the time during out 3 yr relationship. He made fun of me when i cried. He was using meth. He was watching porn all the time, even though he knew i didnt like it. I found girls underwear in our bedroom, and sunglasses. He told me that he didnt know who's they were. Then said maybe they are yours, what an idiot he was. But through all of this i still loved him a nd wanted to be with him. Until he broke up with me one day. Well, I ended up moving away to a different state. I have been living here now for 3 months. Since I have moved here he has gotten a hold of me, from phone calls and the internet. Like a dummy I still talked to him and wanted him back. Then I found this site. I found that post about getting your ex back with no contact or whatever. So I decided I would give it a try. I have been doing it for 2 days now. LOL, I know thats not long. But in these two days my ex has sent me messages over the internet that I ignored. This is what he said.......( HIM) hey send me your number and I'll call you no time to explain (ME)what do you need to call me for? (HIM) Cause I need to tell you that the name of the movie I was talking about is titled "Happy Feet" (ME)lmao you need to call me to say that.....lol.....u already told me you dip..(HIM) whats your number? (ME) why? ..........that was it, then he signed off, and I havent heard from him since last night. SO MY QUESTION IS........AM I DOING NO CONTACT RIGHT? MAYBE I'M NOT CAUSE IM STILL TALKING TO HIM....I DONT KNOW...WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?
lolablue Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 No contact means no contact, so when he emails you another silly question don't respond at all... just ignore him. Take care and stay strong
bbgrlnas Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 No contact really is no contact no matter how hard it is. It it hard to start it but eventually when you see his e-mails you won't even want to bother with him. Take this time for you and realize that you deserve better that he can ever give you. Can you picture what the rest of your life would be with this guy in it....not pretty right. I know it's hard I'm dealing with it myself and I have a baby with him. It does get easier. Keep ya head up and realize your true worth. Never let a man or anyone else put you down.
Yamaha Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 He lied to me all the time during out 3 yr relationship. He made fun of me when i cried. He was using meth. He was watching porn all the time, even though he knew i didnt like it. I found girls underwear in our bedroom, and sunglasses. He told me that he didnt know who's they were. Then said maybe they are yours, what an idiot he was. But through all of this i still loved him a nd wanted to be with him Care to explain why you want to be with this guy? He seems like a real catch!!!
Author BorrowedLove Posted October 29, 2006 Author Posted October 29, 2006 I really dont want to be with him. I just want him to realize that I was very good to him and he lost a good thing.
maay Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 do you need to tell him that you want to cut contact with him? its really hard cos, deep down, you will happy that he call or he text you, no matter how hurt he hurt you.. but yet you still wan to move on and cut contact. i tried this method many times, by turn my mobile off, and i recieve missed call alert from him number and some text from him, i happy to receive that. But it doesn't work for long, as he stop calling me the after i used this method few times. thats when i regret that i used this method by turn my phone off, and received no missed call alert from him. and he stop calling me for few days, untill i call him again. shd i tell him that stop contact me anymore(in fact i want him to call him) and go through the misarable period that he really not contacting me? or i shd just go away to cahnge my number forever, without telling him anything? god, its so hard to do this...
The Red Pill Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 You need to stop focus on what your ex should or shouldn't realize and what you need to do now to break this off for good. What kind of things do you enjoy doing? When was the last time you hung out with your friends and had a good time? This may sound a bit backwards but you need to shift the focus off of your ex and back onto what makes you, well you! It will not only take the sting out of the loss but will hopefully help you grow as a person in spite of your break up. Personally from your account here you can do much better than this lying creep IMHO. Hang in there, it really does get better with time. In the mean time you may want to seek counseling if that is within you reach to help you cope with the loss. Best of luck!!!
johnnytable Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 No contact means no contact, so when he emails you another silly question don't respond at all... just ignore him. Take care and stay strong Receiving an email is still contact, even if you don't read it. Block the email address and take care of that route.
johnnytable Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 I really dont want to be with him. I just want him to realize that I was very good to him and he lost a good thing. This is not within your control nor is it something that you would even know about if it became true. You are pinning your hopes and happiness on something that is a very remote possibility of happening! You need to look at yourself and discover why you care what he thinks. Why you want to be with somebody who treated your so poorly. Why you are basing your happiness on what another individual thinks.
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