Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 ok so i have done nc for almost a week and a half already. ex broke up with me for another guy. now, i called her yesterday and told her that i was going to cancel her gym membership because she was under my family plan. when i told her that, she got mad. she tried to hide it but it was obvious that she got pissed. i mean, why should she get mad if we broke up already? i know she wants to be friends later down the line, but cmon now.... do you think she still has feelings? (maybe thats why she got mad) have you guys ever had an incident like this? where your ex got mad at you because you cancelled something or picked up all of your things?
Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 ok so i have done nc for almost a week and a half already. ex broke up with me for another guy. now, i called her yesterday and told her that i was going to cancel her gym membership because she was under my family plan. when i told her that, she got mad. she tried to hide it but it was obvious that she got pissed. i mean, why should she get mad if we broke up already? i know she wants to be friends later down the line, but cmon now.... do you think she still has feelings? (maybe thats why she got mad) have you guys ever had an incident like this? where your ex got mad at you because you canceled something or picked up all of your things? yes something like that happened. without going into great detail [but i do remember] we had already been 'officially' decoupled and as we know now - someone was already off in another direction - wink. that being said, it is unfortunate, but one has to remember when u are not a couple u can not claim - i had to do the same with T. besides i really don't need a criminal record to be a bad boi! lol yes, and i know she was upset however, she was pretty used to getting anything she wanted then...no saying that in a bad way...but probably gave her false confidence that she could do anything and i would be there life changes fast eh
RecordProducer Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 ok so i have done nc for almost a week and a half already. ex broke up with me for another guy. now, i called her yesterday and told her that i was going to cancel her gym membership because she was under my family plan. when i told her that, she got mad. she tried to hide it but it was obvious that she got pissed. i mean, why should she get mad if we broke up already? i know she wants to be friends later down the line, but cmon now.... do you think she still has feelings? (maybe thats why she got mad) have you guys ever had an incident like this? where your ex got mad at you because you cancelled something or picked up all of your things? I think this is just about the money. Gyms are expensive and she counted on you. Friends don't pay for each other's gyms unless it's a gift, but it's by no means an obligation. But maybe you're wrong that she got mad.
Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I think this is just about the money. Gyms are expensive and she counted on you. Friends don't pay for each other's gyms unless it's a gift, but it's by no means an obligation. But maybe you're wrong that she got mad. well, its being taken out of her credit card, so im not paying it, she is. its just under my family plan so she can get a discount on her monthly payments, but i just don't wanna help her because she said this guy was worth throwing away our relationship for.
Buttaflyy Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I think this is just about the money. Gyms are expensive and she counted on you. Friends don't pay for each other's gyms unless it's a gift, but it's by no means an obligation. But maybe you're wrong that she got mad. I think this is spot on. Guest, good for you for cancelling.
Guest Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 I think this is spot on. Guest, good for you for cancelling. yea, but her monthly payments are being taken out of her own credit card. i just wanted to cancel it because i don't think she needs to rely on me anymore if she dumped me for another guy. i just don't get why she got mad... not like i was paying for it.
gfto Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 do you think she still has feelings? (maybe thats why she got mad) No, she doesn't still have feelings for you. She got mad because she figured you'd keep chasing after her and paying for her membership hoping that it would bring her back.
RecordProducer Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 well, its being taken out of her credit card, so im not paying it, she is. its just under my family plan so she can get a discount on her monthly payments, but i just don't wanna help her because she said this guy was worth throwing away our relationship for. Oh, I see now why she got mad. Nah... who cares what she thinks? She dumped you! Do you have to still be at her service? No. It's still a favor and it's up to you whether you will do her a favor or not. But it IS a bit jerky, just so you know. But she deserved every bit of it.
Guest Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 Oh, I see now why she got mad. Nah... who cares what she thinks? She dumped you! Do you have to still be at her service? No. It's still a favor and it's up to you whether you will do her a favor or not. But it IS a bit jerky, just so you know. But she deserved every bit of it. hahaha, maybe it was, but guess what i did.... the stupid part of me called her again and at least tried to be friends with her. she doesn't like me right now because i cried when i got really really drunk one night. it was at a bar and restaurant and while i was drinking, she had the audacity to talk to the guy RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME on the phone. i mean at least have respect for me when im going through this pain. so i tried to at least get a friendship when i called her, and she said she doesnt like me right now because of the way i acted when it was ALL HER FAULT for dumping me for another guy. she knows shes my first girlfriend, and im really stressed out at work. it kinda just came out and i broke down like no other and shes mad at me... i mean, shouldn't it be the other way around? where I'M suppose to be the one that DOESN'T want the friendship? was i wrong for being depressed and taking it hard when im losing the girl that i love? was i suppose to be happy that she left me for another guy? is this right???
Guest Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 hahaha, maybe it was, but guess what i did.... the stupid part of me called her again and at least tried to be friends with her. she doesn't like me right now because i cried when i got really really drunk one night. it was at a bar and restaurant and while i was drinking, she had the audacity to talk to the guy RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME on the phone. i mean at least have respect for me when im going through this pain. so i tried to at least get a friendship when i called her, and she said she doesn't like me right now because of the way i acted when it was ALL HER FAULT for dumping me for another guy. she knows shes my first girlfriend, and im really stressed out at work. it kinda just came out and i broke down like no other and shes mad at me... i mean, shouldn't it be the other way around? where I'M suppose to be the one that DOESN'T want the friendship? was i wrong for being depressed and taking it hard when im losing the girl that i love? was i suppose to be happy that she left me for another guy? is this right??? what do you guys think???
RecordProducer Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 You should move on, not be friends with her. You can be friends only after you're over her. You should keep (the famous Loveshack's advice) NO CONTACT.
Buttaflyy Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 Yeah, I agree. You should move on, she already has. It was a good move cancelling her membership, now close the door on the relationship completely. She has no concern for your feelings as she's already shown. Don't show her anymore concern either.
Guest Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 Yeah, I agree. You should move on, she already has. It was a good move cancelling her membership, now close the door on the relationship completely. She has no concern for your feelings as she's already shown. Don't show her anymore concern either. thanks guys, ill go ahead and continue the NC, its been 2 days again... i am better than i was 2 weeks ago lol
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