Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Long story short I was in a very emotionally abusive marriage for 5 years. I finally said enough is enough and told him to change or else. He seemed to listen, but he really changed the person who I once was. I am not afraid of living without him anymore, but I do still want to work on the marriage. I love him deeply and he has given me no reason to doubt his efforts. I am just not ready at this point to forgive and forget. He decieded that he was driving me crazy b/c we went from fighting all the time to him turning into a basket case whenever we talk. So he deceided to start staying at his sisters house. We try to meet nightly for dinner and tonight we are spending the evening together, but he felt it would be for a few days and I am not sure how long we should be apart. I am playing this by ear, but he is about to have a nervouse breakdown. I am trying to protect myself and my feelings, I want to believe him but the past 5 years tells me to be cautious. What do I do?
JackJack Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 What do I do? Have you all been to marriage counseling? If not, perhaps suggest that to him. Would you both be willing to go get some outside help? If not, then maybe either give it more time or maybe your uncertainity is trying to tell you something. Maybe you feel this is not something you are willing to try to salvage.
lizzielou Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds like you have handled your situation very well. Not sure how long you have been apart, but maybe you should stay apart until you feel a little more comfortable with him. He treated you very badly and he is incredibly lucky that you still want to work on the marriage. He broke your trust and he broke your faith in your marriage. Maybe he needs to go to counseling, both with you and by himself.
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