Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I am very confused, maybe one of you can help me understand this. The OW that my H had an affair with claims to be a religious woman. He told me that she spoke about her faith and how good of a person she is all the time. She thinks that they were meant to be and that someone is watching over her. When I found out about them and he went NC with her, she continued to try to contact him saying that she didn't want it to end, that they should be together. This is not just what he is telling me, I have listened to the messages myself. We are dealing with this together hoping that she will stop trying to contact him. But my H has been very clear with her. My questions is: What about the commandments about adultery? How can this woman preach religion when she is breaking one of the ten commandments. I don't get it. Please explain.
a4a Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 she is a hypocrite full of crap and next thing you know she will probably claim the devil made her do it (the devil being your H).
Moose Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Just because she says she's religious, doesn't make her so...... And even if she is, she obviously doesn't subscribe to Christianity...... There are other, "cults" out there.....she is a hypocrite full of crapHow can you make that call? Maybe her religion REQUIRES her to be an adultress?
reneet Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Your husband follows another religion allowing him to be an adulterer.
Dayzie Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 There are other, "cults" out there.....How can you make that call? Maybe her religion REQUIRES her to be an adultress? sorry that made me laugh
Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Just because she says she's religious, doesn't make her so...... And even if she is, she obviously doesn't subscribe to Christianity...... There are other, "cults" out there.....How can you make that call? Maybe her religion REQUIRES her to be an adultress? She says she is a good Christian woman and that her religion is very important to her. Because of her belief, she say she knows that the affair was about more than sex and that they were meant to meet. If that's the case, why did he meet me first? Also, the affair lasted about 3 weeks before I found out. My H says that he wanted me to find out so that it would end and we could work on our marriage. He's full of it, I would have preferred he came to me before the affair. I don't buy his excuses at all. I'm not sure how it will work out with us, but I know that he thinks she is a nut case.
mental_traveller Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I am very confused, maybe one of you can help me understand this. The OW that my H had an affair with claims to be a religious woman. He told me that she spoke about her faith and how good of a person she is all the time. She thinks that they were meant to be and that someone is watching over her. When I found out about them and he went NC with her, she continued to try to contact him saying that she didn't want it to end, that they should be together. This is not just what he is telling me, I have listened to the messages myself. We are dealing with this together hoping that she will stop trying to contact him. But my H has been very clear with her. My questions is: What about the commandments about adultery? How can this woman preach religion when she is breaking one of the ten commandments. I don't get it. Please explain. Lol - you've never heard of hypocrisy? There isn't a single human being on this earth who actually follows the teachings of their religion. Every single one of them sins at some point in their life, and usually much more often than that.
outofdarkness Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 This is just too loaded of a topic for me to really comment on...I will just say that I too, have struggled with this question..Not because any of my H's OW's claimed to be Christians, but because being one myself, and a rather sheltered one at that, I still can't imagine the reasoning behind A's..I am working on that through this forum..Blessings.
SoCalCatman72 Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Religion and spirituality is a way of life, not words that come out of your mouth.
reneet Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Religion and spirituality is a way of life, not words that come out of your mouth. Very well said. Thanks!!
Meaplus3 Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I am very confused, maybe one of you can help me understand this. The OW that my H had an affair with claims to be a religious woman. He told me that she spoke about her faith and how good of a person she is all the time. She thinks that they were meant to be and that someone is watching over her. When I found out about them and he went NC with her, she continued to try to contact him saying that she didn't want it to end, that they should be together. This is not just what he is telling me, I have listened to the messages myself. We are dealing with this together hoping that she will stop trying to contact him. But my H has been very clear with her. My questions is: What about the commandments about adultery? How can this woman preach religion when she is breaking one of the ten commandments. I don't get it. Please explain. Hi guest, First and foremost, I would not focus on the OW, I would focus on your marriage. Something must CLEARLY be missing for your H to become involoved with her in the first place. As far as the religous part goes, she may not PRACTICE what she preaches! I am sorry for you pain. Hope you and H get through this. AP
Freedom Now Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 I am gonna stir up a hornet's nest, but I am a born again Christian and I was the OW. My xMM didn't tell me he was married so I fell in love with him on the belief that he was available to be mine. The moment I found out he was married, it was my faith versus my flesh. It was an incredible struggle. There are no words to describe the devastation I felt. I had thought that I found THE relationship for me...he had the same beliefs and faith as I. I thought this was the relationship that God had intended for me. As for my xMM, he claims to be a believer also. We spoke about our faith, we prayed together....the works. Explain this one to me. How does a believer deceive another believer about something so profound as a marriage? Temptation is everywhere. But, I can attest that not every situation is as cut and dried as we would think. And, after being around here lurking before I joined, I know that Walking Away had a very similiar problem. It is not as uncommon as one would think. I have no answers... Perhaps she does.
Guest Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 Explain this one to me. How does a believer deceive another believer about something so profound as a marriage? Because 'believing' is not the same as 'acting on one's belief'. As for the OW who calls herself religious - you can call yourself a horse, but that doesn't give you hooves.
Freedom Now Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 And no one is perfect. And no one knows what is in another's heart. I cannot speak for your OW, but I can speak for myself. Being a believer does not make one perfect. I am not, nor is anyone else. Some OW are deceived by the MM. It is that simple. Had I known he was married, I would have never given him one second of my time. I know that about myself. Other MM had tried and failed. I crossed a line without the knowledge of it. Am I blameless? No. And I am and will suffer for it. That is life, I guess. But, everything happens for a reason and I refuse to let this situation reduce my faith in myself. I am simply human as is everyone else.
Guest Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 My questions is: What about the commandments about adultery? How can this woman preach religion when she is breaking one of the ten commandments. I don't get it. Please explain. Is she preaching religion, or following one? We are all sinners. As for the adulterer, I think that is your husband. Unless she also is married?
Freedom Now Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 His story sounds fishy, too. If he wanted her to find out so badly about an affair that has been going on a mere few weeks, why did he even start it? I think he protests too much. If I were her, I would investigate more. I don't buy his story for one minute.
HennyPenny Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 She sounds like a total fruitcake, and I would be questioning my husband's mental health for finding her appealing.
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