kellyp1 Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 These posts have been keeping me going. Some that may know my story have been reading about how I have mutual feelings with a MM. We have never kissed or done anything beyond a big hug because we could never let ourselves do that and he and his wife do not have any kids. Anyway, things outside of the EA have happened in my life and he was there for me. I found myself relying on the emotional satisfaction I received from him and he found himself relying on providing it. In the middle of some of the hardest moments in my life, we both came to the realization that the EA part was bad and that we had to step back to maintain our friendship. It has been hard and draining and I can easily see how people can slip into bad situations with a MM. Here is the bottom line that he and I both agreed on: affairs (whether emotional or physical) never have a good ending. An ending usually means someone gets hurt and often it is multiple people that get hurt. We want to stay in each others life for a very long time and we can't if we even feed the feelings and attraction a little bit. We are taking some time away from each other (even though our alone time has been minimal anyway) so that we can get past what our hearts are craving right now. At the end of the day, all that matters is the people you love are in your life, not the role they hold. I can't imagine as I hit important milestones in my life not being able to share that with him in my life as one of my friends. Even though he will always be the best kiss I never had, it is not worth losing him forever over.
lovernotafighter Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 you and your MM are wise...I am offically in NC with my exMM and I lost my best friend..had we not acted on our feelings things might have been different. we were friends for a year before we even let feelings known..and we fought the fight and lost...we tried to maintain friendship the last 2 months but it to is to late. thans for the post and don't slip into what I have,I lost so much, allot of myself.
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