leopardprint Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 What are the key things you do after every breakup? Whether it's to cope, move on, remember the ex, or forget the ex? I'm going through my 3rd LTR breakup and I've finally realized my breakup patterns! I watch Practical Magic. For some reason, this movie always makes me feel better about love and lost, and excited about meeting the next man I fall inlove with! I watch A LOT of TV. I'm, not really a TV person, but I realized that when I go through breakups, I keep a TV on whenever I'm in a room with one in it. I guess to always keep my mind busy and off of the ex. I find love and losing love songs that relate to that most particular ex. The ones I've recently found for my most recent ex are The Fray's "Save a Life" (if you read the lyrics... it's basically what I went through with him every night - and no, he never "heard me". ), Plain White T's "Delilah", and Kelly Clarkson's "Walk Away". Speaking of songs, I usually end up making a playlist and CD of songs about that relationship - like a soundtrack for that relationship. They're nice to listen to every once and awhile and remember the good, the bad, and what I have learned from each one. I sleep much more than usual. I guess from all the emotional and mental stress the breakup puts on me, I just end up feeling more physically exhausted. I get my hair done. I don't know, after feeling rejected by someone, it makes me feel a bit better about myself. Plus, it makes me feel a bit more confident about going out there and attracting a new someone for a new start to a new relationship.
AriaIncognito Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I got a haircut and highlight the day after we broke up. lol I can relate to the song thing...a lot of songs currently on remind me of him/us due to memories of hearing it with him. How to save a life is a big one cuz well, he and i used to watch grey's anatomy together, and that song is played in the previews...lol I too watch more tv. I also start reading again. And I try to get into doing odd things around the house. Organizing, throwing things away, whatever. I also usually shop more often which isn't good for my wallet... :-) But, as long as we are doing these things, we are moving on and coping as best we can, and hopefully, we'll get the person we belong with, someday.... Jennifer
jgaz3124 Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 This is my 4th major relationship breakup that I am going thru and I always find my in Barnes and Nobles reading in the self help section to try and figure how to fix what went wrong in the relationship not only that but it makes me feel less helpless about the whole thing. I also watch more movies and listen to music more. But most importantly I think after each relationship I try to find the piece of myself that I lost at the end of all those relationships that were wrong for me.
Kamille Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I buy myself fancy bubble bath. Rent a lot of movies. Go to a lot of movies. Make myself a 'getting over it CD' or playlist now: on the latest one : Sunny Side of the Street by Ella, I miss you by Bjork (the lyrics go : "I miss you but I haven't met you yet" and she goes on about how impatient she is to meet the love of her life whom she just knows is out there, and "These boots are made for walking" Nancy Sinatra.) Call all my friends. Tell some of them all about it. But not all of them. I find it helps to have 'strong face friends' where I actually behave how I wish I could feel and behave. Ah ah yeah, I go shopping. And get a haircut.
agnf666 Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Usually after every break up, I dye my hair a new color or change something about myself to make me feel better. I know dying my hair really isn't going to help but it's something that i always do. In fact I need to do that soon because I just broke up with this guy. I go shopping with my friends. I totally listen to all the sings that are break up songs. For my current situation "The One" Foo Fighters is exactly what I'm going through.
db75 Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I just went through my 4th LTR break-up. It does seem that each one gets a bit easier. But here's what I do anyway. 1) I get myself back in shape physically. I and usually my GF's too usually pick up weight while in the relationship. I've lost about 45pounds so far and a couple pant sizes. 2) I anaylize the relationship I was in. Try to learn as much as I can from it. Things I did wrong, things I did right. Just learn so that hopefully one day I'll meet the right person and be ready for them. 3) Main thing, stay busy. I do whatever I can think of. Go out with friends, watch tv...whatever....anything to keep your mind occupied. 4) Adjust to being single. It's really awkward at first after a LTR, but you do get used to it again and are quite able to be happy.
Author leopardprint Posted October 27, 2006 Author Posted October 27, 2006 Getting my hair done at 6pm today.
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