Guestnbh Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Sorry this is long gotta vent... My husband and I don't have arguments often but when we do its always him saying Im being inconsiderate. I am a college senior, 26 yrs old, my husband is 36. This last argument takes the cake. I was in business class, and the professor says we should not have cell phones on or leave the room when someone is doing a presentation, unless of course its an extreme emergency.(Our presentations are usually simulations of different business activities, i.e presenting business strategy issues to our company, presenting to investors etc.) So, my husband calls me at 10:10pm and I didn't know it was him b/c he got a new cell and I didn't even have the number. So the # calls me about 3 times, then I get a voice, I figured if its important they'll leave a message. Class ends about 10:17 and I call him back. Now hes ranting and raving about y didnt I pick up the phone, and if I don't pick up I'm not getting a ride home, (which is like 45 min away). So now in the car he's angry and says I better pick up the phone next time and I better tell my teacher I have to use my phone. So I suggested when you call me, Ill text message you to let you know where I am, what time I'm getting out and so forth. He says no, he doesn't want a text message b/c it costs 7cents, and thats wasting money. Then asks are my school grades are more important than me getting a ride home? and I said yes. (I am returning to college after dropping out 4 years ago and this is my last semester) So, he says "and if something happens to you, sorry I don't wish anything bad on you but sometimes people need things to happen to them b4 they listen?" What the hell is that??? So I called him today and asked for a ride home and he told me no, hes not driving ms daisy and I'm never getting a ride home (we both pay for this car) and since I don't have a license too bad 4 me. So hes angry, doesn't talk to me, doesn't kiss me goodbye (like he usually does in the morning) and says nothing is wrong, I just don't understand. Someone please help, especially you men, what did I do wrong, can this be fixed? Is there something here I'm just not getting. I'm trying to offer other solutions (sending a text) but he wants me to answer my phone, not call him back.
Mr. Lucky Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 You are pondering rational responses and solutions to the actions of an irrational person. Won't work... You'd be better off disengaging from him as much as possible - even to the extent of finding a different place to stay - until he regains his senses and composure. Good luck! Mr. Lucky
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