Broke up twice, i am not waiting, but think it will happen down the road.....

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So I just got dumped by my partner for the second time in 5 months. Our communication was a little bit rough, but something that could be worked out. SHe is 29 and I am 27. She has been married once and divorced, a rough divorce.. but still talks to the ex. we met at a bar, but had many things in common and spent a lot of time together for the first year.

First 6 year:

We hung out a lot still did our own thing, spent the summer having a blast, went on a month long trip together, got in one uncomfortable situation but that was resolved. We got back from trip and I wanted to move out of where I was, so I moved in with her. This was the first time I had lived with someone I loved and someone I cared about so much as a friend and a partner. Sharing a common space with that person, I was not ready for, I will admit. So things got a little uncomfortable, she was way more busy than I was, and every once in awhile we would have our tiffs, she would ask for some space, then I would come back. things woudl be ok.Well with all this busy action, part of that was a new job and her finishing her undergraduate work. Which is something I had already done and was planning on starting my graduate work anytime. Which is something she was frustrated with, felt my ambition was not high enough for school. Well spring came along and she was getting fed up with our communication and our little arguements, and she thought I did some little things behind her back. For example: she is a very strong rock climber, she introduced me to rock climbing. One weekend over the spring she went climbing with a female friend of hers and they went with a professional photographer. When she got back she told me, and then her picture was put up on a rock climbing web site, where you could look at the pictures and also it had a link to the photographers website. So I went and made some comments, but never introduced myself or told the photographer I was her boyfriend or anything, so he passed the word onto her friend and then to her and she got pissed and wanted out of the relationship. She was thinking that i was not trusting her and that our communication was very rough and she was confused. We took a break for 2 months. all during that break she had been contacting me and sending me messages and I would reply. She went out of town for 3 weeks came back adn we got back together.Which was July 4th weekend....

So the Last 4 months....

SO the last 4 months we have lived in seperate places and I have been very cautious about the relationship in the aspect that I want it to work out and I am making a conscious effort to make this work. For example, not being dependent on her, not always waiting for her, not crowding her. I am also very busy having started my grad. school classesand working full time. Anyways, our communication was still a litttle off, but I think the reason was that we were both being cautious wanting it to work out, so out communication was a little off but could be worked on. At the same time she still felt like my ambitions were not high enough, and that I was smoking too much pot, which is definately not the case, when some of our climbing friends smoke weed everyday. she felt liek it was so important for me, maybe cause she could not smoke as much as she would like. So the past month our communication was off and we had gotten in a few big fights, but I think that was expected. Then last week seh called it off again,saying she cant be in a emotional relationship like this, she needs some one there for her to support her, which i have done from day one. not financially, cause she would not want that, but she wanted this connection that she felt was not there. So my question is, down the road do you think it is possible that we will get back together, She is saying no, do these things for yourself and you will meet someone that is for you. but i feel like that she will realize and will want me there. but at the same time I feel like she is done with me and I should just move on. She is also already gone out on a date with someone. She told me she does not want to jump into a relationship, that she wants her freedom and wants to do her own thing, but she is gong to see this guy again, which is fine. but does this mean anything? Do you think she is thinking about me in the future at all? she says no, but I feel like she is? am I just picking at the straws, the connection is there and the compatibility is there. I just need to show here that I am a little more settled and do have high ambitions, or is it too late. CAN ANYONE HELP PLEASE???????