Guest Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Is it just me or are most of the people here the ones who were left? It seems like we are all trying to cope with the loss here or we are trying to get back with the ones that left. I know that it is extremely hard on the ones that left but it just seems like when one person leaves it is over and the divorce is final. I have been having trouble finding statistics on this. The one article that I did find "The Resolutions of Seperation: Are Marital Reconciliations Attempted" in the article it had an average of 44%. From what I have seen here I would say that it is much lower. I guess if people get back together they stop coming to LS. Any thoughts?
ilmw Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Is it just me or are most of the people here the ones who were left? It seems like we are all trying to cope with the loss here or we are trying to get back with the ones that left. I know that it is extremely hard on the ones that left but it just seems like when one person leaves it is over and the divorce is final. I have been having trouble finding statistics on this. The one article that I did find "The Resolutions of Seperation: Are Marital Reconciliations Attempted" in the article it had an average of 44%. From what I have seen here I would say that it is much lower. I guess if people get back together they stop coming to LS. Any thoughts? Yeah...sounds about right.. I think people come on here because they want a non judgemental ear.. to vent and express how they are feeling... because they don't have there SO to express it too anymore... and are looking for some comfort. If someone gets back together with their SO they have that old outlet back.... so there need to come on here is no longer there... Saying that... some of the success stories... pop back in once and awhile.... plus those who have moved on...and have found new SO's hang around... and hand out their hard won knowledge to the rest of us.... grasshoppers..
dgiirl Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 It's impossible to judge statistics based on an online forum. I would assume a lot of people who are here, came here as a last resort. They kind of used up all their resources, they're not talking to their SO, they've exhausted the ears of loved ones, and now, trying an objective place and looking for comfort. Some have come early enough, and have been succesful in reconciling, and thus have no need for this type of forum. I would imagine the Marital Life forum has more people who are on the other side of the fence, who are trying to reconcile before they actually take the step towards divorce. Also, the people who frequent here are a small subset of population who actually research on the internet for divorce and relationships and actually found this place. Not many would think about using the internet to help with their relationships, until they actually have a real need for it. And out of all those people, the people who participate have to overcome the social stigma about participating online for personal problems. So the sample of population becomes smaller and smaller and smaller.
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