Guest Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 When we first got together my girlfriend and I would have sex almost every day, and the very minimum was a few times per week - this continued normally until 3 or 4 months ago, and the rate we have sex has steadily declined since then. We have been together for a little over a year, and I am worried that she really isn't interested in me anymore. I am 23 and she is 21. Every day she has either a headache, a backache, or a stomachache, often a combination of all three - she uses these as excuses for not having sex along with a few other things like school work, tiredness, etc - basically it seems to me that she doesn't actually want to have sex with me and these are her nice ways of saying, "I'm not attracted to you anymore." We've had discussions where we talk about aspects of this, and she assures me that I am still attractive and she still wants to be with me, but the nearly non-existant physical connection between us is driving me insane. I would like to believe that if she were still attracted to me, and knows what she knows about my sexual frustration that she would occasionally give me a handjob or a blowjob, both of which were common in the past, but which rarely happen now. I realize that we could have vastly different sex drives, but I think it is abnormal for anyone to go weeks without being physical with their partner, especially when they live together as we do. I am a very patient person and I haven't expressed to her all of my frustration and angst over this subject, but I am really desparate and I am hoping you folks can give me some advice. I am hoping someone has an idea of whether or not she is done with me, and also some ideas on how I can re-ignite the passion that once overwhelmed us both, but only seems present in me these days. Thanks in advance, -Joe
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