LaLa18 Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Well I've been friends with my BEST friend for the past 4-5 yrs.. since last year when I got with my bf.. we just weren't as close as we were. She took a vacation and when she came back she just stopped talking to me. Well i found out from one of my friend (which is also her friend).. he said that she's not talking to me because I put my bf before everyone else.. its been almost 3 months since the last time we've spoke. I feel so sad about it.. has anyone been through this before??
Guest Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Well I've been friends with my BEST friend for the past 4-5 yrs.. since last year when I got with my bf.. we just weren't as close as we were. She took a vacation and when she came back she just stopped talking to me. Well i found out from one of my friend (which is also her friend).. he said that she's not talking to me because I put my bf before everyone else.. its been almost 3 months since the last time we've spoke. I feel so sad about it.. has anyone been through this before?? ya It happens like this 2 most of friends , I think u should meet her personally n spend time more with her mind well DONT TALK ABT UR BF RATHER TALK ABT URSELF AND ABT HER . Spend some time with ur best frnd n explain her politely , n ask her y she is behaving like that way . It may happen that she may not tell u reason , force her a bit , If she aint ready 2 give reason just tell her openly that she can tell u things anytime . Let her make secure that u r still same old best frnd. U may get into fight but then it will b for good cause . Just go n spend some time with her
peterparks Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 I was in the same situation. Why don't you just talk about it to make things a clearer for the two of you?
fishtaco Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 That's just how it is. Once you're in a relationship, that relationship will cost some of your free time. It's supposed to. Your friends need to adjust. But at the same time you need to make an effort to keep in touch. I have many friends that become stuck up their man/woman's butt and I never hear from them after. That's bad too. Make sure you're not doing that. It's a compromise for everyone. It's your job to take an active role to maintain the friendship, it's your friends' jobs to be understanding of your situation and accept the new scaled-back hang out time. Best case scenario, your bf becomes her friend too, and the three of you hang out together sometimes. That's why I think it's important for one to make friends with their partner's friends.
Guest Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 I was in the same situation. Why don't you just talk about it to make things a clearer for the two of you? U KNOW WHAT...I PROMISE I PROMISE I PROMISE I PREOMISE U KNOW HOW FREAKING DUMB I AM THATS WHY I HAVE TO GO TO OUTSIDE SOURCES TO CLEAN THIS MESS UP I WOULD RATHER NOT IF U TAKE FIVE FREAKING MINUTES AND WALK ME THRU CLEANING UP EVERYTHOINGH THEN WE CAN PUT THIS ALL BEHIND OK COME ON MAN! COMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEON! YAHOO IS OPEN I PROMISE I WILL NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT COME BACK
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