My mind is racing..

[Anonymous.]

Ok here goes..

 

I had a few dates with this girl i work with and really like. After said dates... she kinds pulled away from me.. She told me she isnt ready to get into a relationship at the moment because of some issues... (abusive boyfriend recently... for one plus a bunch of others) Shes just a case of an excellent person with alot of bad things happening to her. I know what your thinking, but its not all relationship stuff.. alot is friends and family stuff.

 

She doesnt want to start any sort of relationship at the moment saying she wants to focus on her kids.. Which is good.

 

I had told her the dates were great and later confessed that i had felt a spark between us.. and it was honestly weird, hadnt felt that on a date in a long time.

 

In the next couple weeks.. i had the oportunity for another date, which i took. I told her about my upcoming date and she kinda got jealous.. or at least asked me questions about it.

 

So a week after she asks me "why i told her about my date?"

 

So we went for coffee and talked.. and i asked her if she had felt the same about me from our dates, and she confessed she had. She told me liked me, and i could tell alot.

 

So now were not dating.. I do work with her so i do see her.. Im friendly everytime I do see her, as is she to me.

 

Heres whats got me thinking..

 

When we went for coffee.. we figured were both screwed..since she cant get into a relationship with all these problems in her head at the moment.. (baggage) even though she feels the way she feels, and im screwed because of that.

 

But she said "I wont say lets just be friends" What am i supposed to think of that?

 

Another thing..she still sends text messages from time to time.. not as often but still does.. nothing about a relationship but just stupid things we both like really.. like shooting the breeze. Which means she hasnt thrown away my number. She doesnt call or anything.. we dont hang out.

 

I asked her for gum at work the other day.. she didnt have any, called me back when i walked away and jumper to her wallet to give me money to get some. Then... like 4 times that day just came around to see if i wanted more gum.. I mean.. big deal, gum.. but why come around?

 

I mean.. does she still think about me? I still think of her..i think she knows that.

 

Will she come around once shes solved her problems..

 

Should i wait it out?

 

Her birthday is coming up in 2 months.. I want to get her a card to remind her im still here.. i dont know if its a good idea or not. She got me something small for mine.. a month after our last date. She wanted to come out to party for my birthday but changed her mind.. So i asked her.. "Your afraid if you come out with me it will be like your going against your word about not having a relationship right?" And she said yes.. so she is definatly not just thinking of being just friends..

 

 

I wish i knew she would come around.. and that we could have a chance in the future..

 

Pick apart this message and give me some insight please!!!

 

 

PS: I know this post is all over the place but i wrote it as i could recall in my mind as i sit here thinking.. over and over.

 

Help.

[gfto]

Move on. She isn't interested in you. She just likes the attention. It tweaked her ego when she found out that you had another date. Interest level cuts through everything. If she was romantically interested in you, she'd be dating you. Her last relationship has nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Move on. She isn't interested in you. She just likes the attention. It tweaked her ego when she found out that you had another date. Interest level cuts through everything. If she was romantically interested in you, she'd be dating you. Her last relationship has nothing to do with it.

 

It isnt for the attention, trust me.. this girl gets all the attention she needs from others, including other coworkers. Noone else from my job has dated her, and she asked me in the first place.. after about 4-6months of hints.

 

So..

[gfto]

You're grasping at straws. The point is that she knows you like her, but she's giving you all sorts of reasons (excuses) not to date you. It's because she isn't very interested in you. It's really that simple.