chicago1 Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 My wedding was may 13th 2006. 3 weeks before the wedding I found out I was pregnant. SO what we said lets not tell anyone I am 37! He 39! Well found out it was an ectopic and had surgury tuesday before the wedding. C-section like. OUCH! I was released on thursday and we went on with the rehursal dinner. My fiance was trying to cancelll from the min. I got in the hospital. I begged him to keep it going with the ok from Dr. Well the day before he called the vendors and cancelled it. I was so upset I left and spent the night at my friends and cried all night. He called the next morning begging me to come home for he res. it aug 26th. SO I did. Now I am recovering from everthing, not working and going to counsling together. Everthing is back on track. Well text messages start coming in from a girl at work! A Lot. I checked his phone bill and it was horriable. Every Sat morning when he went to work out. on my b-party. On my birthday when he got mad at me and did not come home till 9:00 and I was pg with his child right before the wedding. Then I said I am out of here. No jOb quit for him. No home, sold that to move 25 miles away from my friends and family. Well he begged and said what would it take and i responded. Let me see your yahoo account. well emails back and forth from another girl his ex. she did a background check on me and my family and she was trying to break us up. she was cranking our home daily and said she was with him up untill this past year. Our engagement. so through our relationship. WHAT!~ I still stayed and went to counsling with him. I wanted to know more. i went on line and created an account with his cell phone to see how bad and long it was going on. WElll it did not look good. he said get out of the house the wedding is off when he found this out. I paid 50,000 for the wedding paid in full and he won't pay me for anything. I just got a job for 10,000 less a year that I hate. Moved to chicago in an apt I really should not be able to afford for I need to pay all these people back!! I went to an attorney and he filed breach of promise to marry and return of the engagement ring. DOes anyone have any expeirince with this? Do I have a case? My parents are paying for the attorney fees for my life savings was in the wedding. ps. one more thing. He has about a million dollars put away in investments and real estate. Not hurting. He just retained an attorney. He said his attorney said I have no case. we were never married. HELP
LakesideDream Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 The "Reasonable Man" axiom applies. Was it reasonable for him to try and cancel a wedding with you in the hospital having emergancy surgery? How did you get his cel information? Did you comitt a fraud to do it? If so that may be "identity theft", it certainly isn't legally ethical. You do need to return the ring. Engagement rings are the property of the giver until the wedding. Engagement rings are "tokens" in anticipation of marriage, not gifts. He may be liable for half the wedding expenses. You presumably signed the contracts together.
Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 Make no mistake he called off the second one too. As far as the account I created. We lived together and were already due to have been married. The ectopic preg. is the only reason he will admit to calling off the first one. regardless, he is leaving me high and dry. I was hormonal and needed to know the truth about his behavior.
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