Guest Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Well I'll start off by saying my friends and I have this good friend who just happens to be a girl. She also happens to be smoking hot. Thru all the years, non of us has touched her since she is so close to us, she's almost like my sister. But each and every girlfriend we have gets jealous of her and doesn't want her around to the point this friend of ours was in tears once. My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago. It was over our busy schedules and her always having to cancel plans to work. She called on a friday and kept saying she doesn't know what she wants to do, and if I was willing to put up with it that'd be fine, and just that she'd think it over. Well I called her that night to say goodnight, just happened to mention I was out with a few friends, and this girl was one of them. The next day she broke up with me. She wrote me the next day and said "Friday I wasnt sure what I was going to do, but when u told me u were out with her, that made my decision. I know I know I know u are just friends, but when ur in a relationship u have to consider the fact it bothered me" So for 3 weeks I moped and moped over, "if only I never told her she was out, she wouldn't have gotten mad and this thing wouldnt have snowballed to this point" Well I have been tryin to work things out for 3 weeks, when last Thursday we talk and she tells me that she lost the spark and doesn't want to be in a relationship with me and that it probably isnt going to happen. I left it at that. Today my friend (the girl) who bar tends told me my ex was in Friday night. She said every single time she looked up, my ex was staring at her. Not giving her a dirty look or anything, but she said my ex's eyes did not leave her the whole time she was there. So im thinking, the night before she doesnt want to be with me, then she's staring at my friend who she ultimately said made her make the decision to break up with me cuz i was out with her. What is up?? If she didn't care Thursday, why care Friday to the point to stare at someone?? I don't want to read too much into it, but how can I not? My friend would not make a story like this up or lie to me. I mean if i told a girl it probably isn't going happen between us, im not going to care if I'm around some guy I knew she was close friends with. I should also mention that for the first 2 weeks of the breakup, my ex was calling me every couple days, we were texting and she once text me and told me she was thinking about me at work. Then this 3rd week it was like she flipped the switch. I would send her goodnight texts and she would respond "Heyyyy Goodnight!!!!" then all the sudden last monday I sent her a good morning text and she says "its strange to hear from you this early" 3 days later I got that phone call I was talking about, then the next night she's staring at my friend. Like the title says, should this even be an issue? She I be mad about this? or put any thought into it?? Thanks
Confuggled_one Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I think she was staring at your bar tending friend because she wanted to be her. but then again i really dont know because im not a girl .. but just my thoughts about it.. your ex might have really been admiring her or idolizing her and it really isnt your fault because it was your ex who did not trust you.. but you said she was flaming hot so that is reasonable.. I guess your ex was just picturing herself as that bar tending girl so that she could get the same attention you gave your friend.. (attention meaning hanging out etc.. and being your close friend) but i dont know enough to say anything.. hope this helps a bit... I had trouble reading your post so if this does not validate anything excuse me
Zaira Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 If you told your ex time and time again that you were just friends, and reassured her that she was the one you wanted to be with - then HER jealousy is HER problem. A true love will understand that it IS possible for males and females to be friends, and just that. The only thing I can think of, is hanging around with your GF and friend at the same time, so she sees you interact etc. If she was never willing to do that though, then it's HER problem. If you weren't willing to do that, then maybe you should ask the question of yourself: "Do you really just see her as a friend?"
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