Mermaiden Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I'm really interested in a guy who is about 4 & half years younger than me. I'm 31, he's 27. For different reasons I feel younger than my age. Late bloomer/sheltered upbringing, virgin until 26. He seems more mature than his age (owns his own company, very accomplished) And I don't see any difference in how we look agewise (I stay out of the sun and take pretty damn good care of myself ) Is this a big age difference ? I'm very interested in him but would like to hear others opinions. Thanks !
magichands Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 You need to find someone within 99 days of your birthday. Either side. Beyond that, it's a crapshoot. Do you realise that when you were a "sophisticated" teenager, he was 9?! Ewww. You wouldn't have been seen dead with him then.
jerbear Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 5 years is not bad as time goes on. 15 and 9 are different age groups and different points in life. Now that you are 31 and he is 27, that is different I am sure you are at a different stange in life compared to when you were 15 and he was 9.
monkey00 Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Go for it. Age is a number, everybody matures at differing levels depending on life experiences.
funkify Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I don't think 4-5 years is a big difference at all. It shouldn't be an issue. The only issue would be if you are at different stages in your life. You might really want to get married etc while he might not. Are you pretty much at the same life stage?
Noos Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 It's not a big deal at these ages. Go for it. Ya know, I bet a guy in your situation wouldn't even ask this question.
Guest Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I don't think 4-5 years is a big difference at all. It shouldn't be an issue. The only issue would be if you are at different stages in your life. You might really want to get married etc while he might not. Are you pretty much at the same life stage? I think he may be a bit more mature & ready to settle down than I am ironically.
Zaira Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I don't think 4-5 years is a big difference at all. It shouldn't be an issue. The only issue would be if you are at different stages in your life. You might really want to get married etc while he might not. Are you pretty much at the same life stage? Exactly right. If you're both looking for the same thing in life then there is no reason it shouldn't work if you get along well. It can never hurt to try anyway. I've been with a guy 6 years younger (when I was 25). It lasted 4 years, and ended when we realised we both wanted way different things. It all depends on the 2 people involved
Bogun Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I came here to post a similar kind of thread, except I'm 27 and she's 21. She's so damn gorgeous I'm tempted to ignore the difference in age and see what happens You need to find someone within 99 days of your birthday. Either side. Beyond that, it's a crapshoot. Rubbish....my dad is 3 years older than my mum, and theyve been married 40 years. I say go for it mermaiden. 31 and 27 are not that different.
typical Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Sadly, this: She's so damn gorgeous Is the only reason you are tempted to ignore the difference. 27 and 31 are practically on top of each other. He is almost 30 as it is all downhill from 25, in my opinion. Try it out. You might like it.
dgiirl Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Let me know how it goes!! I've been speaking to a lot of men in that age group, and i'm 32. Some of them seem to be at the same stage in life as I, and I would love to meet up with them if they lived closer, but then I worry how young is too young.
Woggle Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I'm 15 years younger than my wife so go for it. Age is just a number unless it is something like 82 and 21.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Let me know how it goes!! I've been speaking to a lot of men in that age group, and i'm 32. Some of them seem to be at the same stage in life as I, and I would love to meet up with them if they lived closer, but then I worry how young is too young. for a 32 y/o woman i'd say,maybe under 25? depending?
IpAncA Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I'm 5 years younger then my H and he's 30. So its not a big deal.
typical Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I'm 5 years younger then my H and he's 30. So its not a big deal. I think the stigma comes when its the reverse situation.....ie younger man, older woman.
roxy_1980 Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Don't worry about it in the least. It's no big deal. As for magichands, 99 days, eh? So what do you do when you pick someone up? I can see it now...."So baby, how old are you? What month? K, let me whip out the calculator and see if I can date you" Superficial differences. People are more important. Live it up, Roxy
magichands Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 As for magichands, 99 days, eh? So what do you do when you pick someone up? I can see it now...."So baby, how old are you? What month? K, let me whip out the calculator and see if I can date you" You're right, Roxy - this policy is seriously hampering my love life. It's time to throw caution to the wind, and - like you say - bathe in the ageless personality of another human being. I won't date a Pisces, though. That's a red flag.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 You're right, Roxy - this policy is seriously hampering my love life. It's time to throw caution to the wind, and - like you say - bathe in the ageless personality of another human being. I won't date a Pisces, though. That's a red flag. :laugh:
Guest Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Really! If you have stuff in common and are both attracted to each other that kind of age gap is non-existent. Even more so if you feel younger than you are. I can relate to that I feel about 15 years younger than I am (I'm probably retarded). You are also at that stage where this difference is pretty inexistant. There isn't much difference between being 25 and 35 (well there isn't to me). The truth is that a 5 years age-gap with the woman older, equals in 'socially acceptable' terms a 10 years age-gap with the man older but there are zillions of happy relationships with those kind of age-gaps. I think the relationship becomes more complicated (not impossible but requires a lot of 'standing up against the world') if the gap is over 12 years old and the guy is between 18 and 25 as it is then possible that the woman could be (and would be seen as) her lover's mother and the guy still has quite a bit of growing up to do.
Lostgurl Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 Five years is nothing. IMO age doesn't matter at all. The chemistry between the two ppl is what matters, the compatibility. Me and mine are 10 years and 2 days apart.. We click perfectly.. Yeah maybe it does cause SOME problems, but we work them out.
Author Mermaiden Posted October 27, 2006 Author Posted October 27, 2006 The truth is that a 5 years age-gap with the woman older, equals in 'socially acceptable' terms a 10 years age-gap with the man older but there are zillions of happy relationships with those kind of age-gaps. Maybe in 1890 when people didnt live that long. But no I dont think its equal to ten year gap. LOL And what women do you know over 28 who go around telling their ages in public ? Funny the guy I am interested in was told he was robbing the cradle by some woman when we went out. She was trying to hit on him and wasnt trying to be nice to me when she said it. I never go out in the sun, so I guess that and good genes and a happy attitude help how I appear. The guy I like acts intense and serious so he comes off more worldly and older than me. So it does all even out.
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