Attractive women: do you use your looks to get what you want in everyday life?

[Green]

Good looking people definetly have it easier in life that average looking people. People are more patient with good looking people and studies show they listen more closely and are more likely to take seriously what is said by a good looking person. A good looking person wouldnt know if they used there good looks to get something in less it was obviouse but it may be subtle in a lot of cases other then getting dates.

[CrushedOrgans]

if jessica alba and plain jane walk into the same bar for the same reason, even though jessica may be more attractive, she isn't 'using' her looks for anything. the bartender makes the choice who is he going to serve. neither one can help how they naturally look, good or bad.

[CrushedOrgans]

Good looking people definetly have it easier in life that average looking people. People are more patient with good looking people and studies show they listen more closely and are more likely to take seriously what is said by a good looking person. A good looking person wouldnt know if they used there good looks to get something in less it was obviouse but it may be subtle in a lot of cases other then getting dates.

 

really? i've seen things to the exact opposite effect, and it's usually because many think that good-looking people can count only on their looks to get ahead in life and that they have nothing more to offer, which (often) is crap. a less than attractive person would often be seen as 'nerdy' or smarter in some way and therefore seem to be able to be taken more seriously (which also is often crap.)

[SmoochieFace]

if jessica alba and plain jane walk into the same bar for the same reason, even though jessica may be more attractive, she isn't 'using' her looks for anything. the bartender makes the choice who is he going to serve. neither one can help how they naturally look, good or bad.

 

I would serve both of them. It doesn't have anything to do with looks. Granted, I may be in the minority given that bars are usually run by shallow people and are shallow places anyway so my service would probably be unheard of.

[moredeborah]

It's for sure not the best thing to do, I know. But not for anything major. Just last night, I forgot to bring the coupon to the pizza place for a pick up delivery. I got to the restaurant and hoped that a boy was at the counter. Sure enough, there was a boy and all I had to do was act dumb, and be cute and he charged me for the price of the coupon. That would not have worked on a woman.

[Storyrider]

Along these lines, I often wonder how many people, especially men, would pay more attention to the woman with barbie doll good looks over somebody more unconventional, but not necessarily a Plain Jane.

 

As a woman who is reasonably attractive but very un-Barbie like (brunette, short hair and glasses) I wonder how much less my chances are to catch someone's eye. I think some people are labeled as plain without anyone taking a closer look. I like to hope that not everyone out there holds to the same conventional standards of beauty.

 

On another site I find entertaining, men often post about seeing a "stunning blonde at the grocery store" or "stunning blonde at the gym". They hardly ever say, "Stunning brunette in glasses at the library." It makes me wonder about the blondes have more fun thing.

 

To me, it gets a little Stepford Wife-ish at times. At a recent gathering at my daughter's elementary school, our state beauty queen was present. When she walked up with a rhinestone tiara on her head, a bunch of parents (including me) thought it was the school principal wearing a tiara, because the principal cultivates this exact same blonde, beauty queen look! They could have been twins!

[Madaline]

On another site I find entertaining, men often post about seeing a "stunning blonde at the grocery store" or "stunning blonde at the gym". They hardly ever say, "Stunning brunette in glasses at the library." It makes me wonder about the blondes have more fun thing.

 

Thats because for most guys, their ideal girl is blond, blue eyes with a big chest. And then when they can't have that they seek for an alternative. I've never heard of anyone saying check out that brunette at the library or what not. Just doesn't happen.

[tanbark813]

Thats because for most guys, their ideal girl is blond, blue eyes with a big chest. And then when they can't have that they seek for an alternative. I've never heard of anyone saying check out that brunette at the library or what not. Just doesn't happen.

 

That's not true. My ideal girl is brunette, not blonde. To be honest, I think blondes look a bit vanilla and plain. And brainy girls are hot. I can't stand dumb girls. I even have a t-shirt that says "talk nerdy to me".

 

[lovestruck234]

To be honest, I think blondes look a bit vanilla and plain. And brainy girls are hot.

 

Not true. Blondes can be brainy also.

[tanbark813]

Not true. Blondes can be brainy also.

 

I didn't say they couldn't. Those were two unrelated claims.

[Madaline]

That's not true. My ideal girl is brunette, not blonde. To be honest, I think blondes look a bit vanilla and plain. And brainy girls are hot. I can't stand dumb girls. I even have a t-shirt that says "talk nerdy to me".

 

Well I did say "most."

[lovestruck234]

I didn't say they couldn't. Those were two unrelated claims.

 

Well, just remember that not all dumbs are blonde!!

 

Lol I'm just kidding!!

[Sand&Water]

Reply:

That's not true. My ideal girl is brunette, not blonde. To be honest, I think blondes look a bit vanilla and plain. And brainy girls are hot. I can't stand dumb girls. I even have a t-shirt that says "talk nerdy to me".

Right on, Tanbark813!

 

I want a shirt just like that -"talk nerdy to me" except in reference to a man. Steamy. Hot.

 

Do you use your looks to get what you want in everyday life?

 

No. I don't use my looks, forcefully or intentionally, to get what I want. IF the contrary occurs, then I always calculate it in my mind.

 

Example -In My Experience: I was attending a university course. Just a few days before the exam, I wanted to ask the professor a few questions. One afternoon, I entered his office, and asked him the questions I has in mind. Right before I left his office, he suddenly tells me: "You look like a pretty, nice, very smart girl, blah, blah. You're smart, so why don't you give me your name and I'll raise your grade for the course!" Shock.

 

Careful ladies.

 

Sand&Water

[lovestruck234]

Example -In My Experience: I was attending a university course. Just a few days before the exam, I wanted to ask the professor a few questions. One afternoon, I entered his office, and asked him the questions I has in mind. Right before I left his office, he suddenly tells me: "You look like a pretty, nice, very smart girl, blah, blah. You're smart, so why don't you give me your name and I'll raise your grade for the course!" Shock.

 

Careful ladies.

 

Sand&Water

 

 

Ew. That's disgusting. I had a school geography teacher try that creepy sh*t on me. Told him to get ripped and walked out...

 

He hels me back after one class and started saying all ths sh*t like...

 

"You know, it's not too often that you get such a, not only academic excelled student, but one that doesn't lack in looks and personality. You've done really well this year Tess. I am more than happy to give you private tutoring so as to help you with your exams..."

 

He was like 40.....yuck.

[Noos]

Girls know that even without flirting, the pretty girl gets the attention, gets more positive responses, gets positive qualities attributed to her that she doesn't possess and is overall treated better. Some guys wont even talk to women if they don't find them sexually attractive.

 

It's not a myth - beauty equals preferential treatment - it's been tested empirically by psychologists and proven to be true.

 

That's why women spend so much money on clothes, hair and makeup. The more physically attractive they are, the more attention and praise they will receive.

 

But girls who flirt to get something, that is - feign interest in someone or communicate the message that they stand a chance when they don't (the girl is actually trying to obtain a benefit) - are unscrupulous. Yet men fall for it every time!

 

There is nothing wrong with being friendly and polite to everyone with whom you have to communicate - but using your looks is bleurggghhh!

[elijahBailey]

Ew. That's disgusting. I had a school geography teacher try that creepy sh*t on me. Told him to get ripped and walked out...

 

He hels me back after one class and started saying all ths sh*t like...

 

"You know, it's not too often that you get such a, not only academic excelled student, but one that doesn't lack in looks and personality. You've done really well this year Tess. I am more than happy to give you private tutoring so as to help you with your exams..."

 

He was like 40.....yuck.

 

that is

 

Sounds like he was not at all uncomfortable or nervous, and he might have even done that before in the past, and maybe with some success.

 

I suppose if my grades were that bad and I can't graduate, and I get propositioned by a female professor, I might find it tempting

 

but seriously, what if the dude who propositions you is Donald Trump. would you still find it yucky ? Be honest now.

[yousaveme]

Ive used my looks to get me out of trouble..

[elijahBailey]

Ive used my looks to get me out of trouble..

 

what kind of trouble

[BlueEyedGirl]

I don't really see anything wrong with using looks to make our lives easier. Of course within some limits, sleeping with a teacher to get better grade is . But if it's subtle and if it's not hurting anyone (including yourself) I don't see any harm in it.

 

If I was going for a job interview and had a choice of facing all male or all female panel, no prizes for guessing which one I would chose

[yousaveme]

what kind of trouble

 

well, i use it with my BF when we argue. When im positive i was wrong and need to get myself out of it.

[crazy_grl]

but seriously, what if the dude who propositions you is Donald Trump. would you still find it yucky ? Be honest now.

 

Trump is gross. I'm not just talking looks/age either. His attitude and personality are his most unattractive qualities. It's fine to have money and be successful, but to talk about it all the time like he does is a HUGE turn-off.

[elijahBailey]

alright, alright, bad example

but dang, that dude's rich.

[CrushedOrgans]

Well I did say "most."

 

 

wow, that's so unbelievably false. but it's amusing that people still believe that.

[blind_otter]

And I don't mean "use your looks" as in sleeping with men. But say subtle flirting on a job interview, with college lecturer, and generally men that you can see you have an effect on. Just wondering to what degree women do this (conciously and unconciously - and yes I know I probably spelled that wrong ).

 

Unequivocally, yes I do. I have it in my toolkit, so I try it when I have to. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Looks are just another tool, nothing special. A trick of genetics and good style.

[SmoochieFace]

wow, that's so unbelievably false. but it's amusing that people still believe that.

 

The assertions of those who are hooked on stereotypes are most amusing indeed.