ae4e Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 My girlfriend recently broke up with me, about a month ago actually, and I really have no idea what I did! We went out for about 4 months, I know it doesn't seem like long, but we were SO in love with each other! We had so much fun together, enjoyed each others company, we were pretty intimate, but we didn't have sex or anything. I brought her flowers randomly and she truely acted like she loved me, she told me how sweet I was and how she loved that, and she told me all the time that she did. Then all of a sudden out of the blue, she broke up with me. She told me she needed me to be the best friend that I was to her before we got together, and she said that maybe we could possibly get back together someday...so we broke up, and now I am trying to be her friend like she wanted, but she keeps shunning me away, won't even hardly talk to me...was she just feeding me a bunch of bullcrap to get rid of me? I am really trying to get over her, but I just can't, I love her too much....what should I do? I really need help, I am about to go crazy!
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 was she just feeding me a bunch of bullcrap to get rid of me? I think you should keep your (emotional) distance for a while. She doesn't sound too sure about you, and "pushing" her to like you (through a closer friendship or whatever) is only going to push her away.
Mythical Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I think she probably met someone els and felt bad. She porbbaaly really did like you at first but kept it up after. And now she said she needs you as a friend probably because she feels bad and if she says you are still friends and can maybe get back togther that leaves you with faith, but her with a done task.
norajane Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 You need to stay away from her completely - no so-called friendship, no calls, no visits, no emails, no texts. Either she will miss you and what you had together, or you won't hear from her again and will better be able to get over her more quickly by not being around her or hearing from her at all. I think she met another guy, or she felt she has you wrapped around her little finger and that made you less attractive and compelling to her...but I'm just guessing. It wasn't your fault. She's the one who can't accept your love, so it's her, not you.
Author ae4e Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Thanks for the replies I was talking to her the other day on the internet, and she asked who this one girl was that I have been talking to on myspace was, the girl had stated that she thinks I am really cute and such, is that jealousy? I just don't know how to get over her, and why do I feel like I don't want to?
tanbark813 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I was talking to her the other day on the internet, and she asked who this one girl was that I have been talking to on myspace was, the girl had stated that she thinks I am really cute and such, is that jealousy? Yes. Ignore your ex and flirt with the girl on myspace more. I just don't know how to get over her, and why do I feel like I don't want to? Because you're chemically addicted to her. Google oxytocin.
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Because you're chemically addicted to her. Google oxytocin. Man...be careful talking about stuff you have no idea about, haha. If it was this simple there could be a cure for love-sickness out by lunchtime tomorrow. Yes. Ignore your ex and flirt with the girl on myspace more. This time, I bow to superior finesse.
tanbark813 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Man...be careful talking about stuff you have no idea about, haha. If it was this simple there could be a cure for love-sickness out by lunchtime tomorrow. The cure is called new vagina.
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 The cure is called new vagina. Far too cynical for my taste, but I understand that you're trying to help.
Author ae4e Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Yeah, quite cynical, lol, but thats ok. So she really is jealous? I could try to ignore her, but she is going through a really bad time right now....I want to just ignore..then I don't...this is too hard!
norajane Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Yeah, quite cynical, lol, but thats ok. So she really is jealous? I could try to ignore her, but she is going through a really bad time right now....I want to just ignore..then I don't...this is too hard! Uh, sorry, but YOU are going through a really bad time now, because she dumped you. How she feels and what she's going through is no longer your responsibility or concern, because SHE left you.
Author ae4e Posted October 25, 2006 Author Posted October 25, 2006 Thats SO true! Very valid point. Does anyone have any sure-fire tips of how to get over a lost love?
tanbark813 Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Does anyone have any sure-fire tips of how to get over a lost love? 1. Get a case of beer and watch Swingers. 2. Repeat #1 100 times.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I brought her flowers randomly Well, there is one mistake right there, especially after only 4 months. I might get pummeled by the LS women for this, but don't keep buying gifts that early in a relationship, it's a death knell. I have learned from this mistake, so I can tell you honestly you have to watch how much you give in the first year of a relationship. It's okay on special occasions to do something nice, but random acts of kindness can quickly land you in friendship zone or worse, dumped cold. Regards,
Author ae4e Posted October 25, 2006 Author Posted October 25, 2006 Could you elaborate on why buying her flowers every now and then is a bad omen for relationships? She sure did seem to enjoy it a lot, got plenty of kisses for that, lol . For future reference, how can I be a better boyfriend?
magichands Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 I might get pummeled by the LS women for this, but You should be so lucky.
a4a Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Could you elaborate on why buying her flowers every now and then is a bad omen for relationships? She sure did seem to enjoy it a lot, got plenty of kisses for that, lol . For future reference, how can I be a better boyfriend? I would love to know this as well :lmao: Rooster of course you are in a wonderful R now so this is a proven technique?
simon_uk Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Could you elaborate on why buying her flowers every now and then is a bad omen for relationships? She sure did seem to enjoy it a lot, got plenty of kisses for that, lol . It is only a bad omen if you are with somebody who doesn't appreciate being treated with love and respect. For future reference, how can I be a better boyfriend? By remaining true to yourself and not changing, who or what you are.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 It really depends on the kind of women you are with. A woman with her head screwed on straight (where are they?) would appreciate these kinds of gestures. Fact is, you can go overboard with lot's of women by showing to many random acts of kindness. Sure, at the time they will love all the attention they are getting, but if they are not returning the favor then that's when problems can arise. I'm not suggesting you not be yourself, but be careful of how much you give without reciprocation. Remember, you have to present yourself as somewhat of a challenge to keep her interested and by showering her too much can make her think your a SAP. Regards!
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