Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I"m looking for advice on how to deal with my bf's sister. We've been dating for a little over a year but it wasn't until the last few months that I"ve had to be around his sister alot. He lives with his sister (she is older than him) and she is very ignorant toward me. She will say rude things about me to him or to anyone who is standing around (while I'm right there) She just makes comments about me that aren't even true. She will say things like I"m cheating on her brother or that I"m easy. I've slept with a total of 4 guys and I'm sure she'd been with more than that and right now she is dating a married man. I dont' pass judgement on that. Its none of my business so I don't care. But I'm sick of her comments. Especially when my bf's brothers are visiting and they think its funny when she says something rude about me. I've asked her if she has a problem with me but she just refuses to talk to me. I've never done anything to her that I know of. Other than the fact that my bf doesn't hang out with her because he's with me now. She also makes comments that I'm anorexic (which I'm definatley not I just don't weigh 200 lbs like she does) I didn't really hang out at my bf's house until recently because I had my own apartment nad we just hung out there. But I had to give up my apartmetn and am living with friends and my bf isn't allowed there. I am tired of his sister's attitude toward me- his whole family's attitude actually. I went over there for the first time last year for a cook out and everyone was there and I said hi when I walked in (to everyone) and not one person would say a word to me!! One of their kids (about 3 yrs old) came over and hugged me (even though she didn't know who I was). I just feel VERY uncomfortable going to my bf's house and so I've been avoiding it and I've told him why. He gets mad at me, says I should stand up to his sister. Well maybe he's right but I've tried talking to her and that doesn't help. I've tried being friendly- bringing pizza over for her and her boyfriend to share with us or bringing over a movie I know she wanted to see. But nothing helps. SHe's still a bitch to me and my bf says don't let it bother me or stand up to her and put her in her place. Well I dont ' feel its my place to do that. If she was coming to MY house and disrespecting me then I'd stand up for myself. BUt this is HER house, I'm basically a guest there and I dont' feel I have a right to be rude back to her. (she can basically kick my boyfreind out too) I think because its his sister he should tell her to lay off or to leave me alone. Otherwise I just won't come over (which is what she wants). My bf gets mad at me for not coming over but its a very hostile environment. He says its my fautl because I let her walk all over me. Well I've never been in this situation before. Usually the parents/sibblings of my past boyfriends have loved me (or at least pretended to) and I've gotten along with all of them. My ex's mom was like a 2nd mom to me and another ex's sister and I grew very close. Plus I was raised not to be rude to people in thier own home. Am I being a wimp or is my bf being an idiot for letting his sister treat me this way?
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