freckles3131 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Hello, I have an 11 yr. old son. I walked in on him masterbating last night and again this morning. (he didn't lock his bedroom door and was on the couch the 2nd time) Is 11 yrs. old a normal (for lack of a better word) age for him to be experimenting with this? I didn't wig out on him when I ran into it, but merely said, "It's okay for you to be doing that and it's a normal thing, but I would appreciate if you could do it in your room/the bathroom and for privacy...please lock the door" Just wondering if the age is normal and what can I expect? Will there be mood swings etc..accompanying this as well? And now that he has "discovered" this, will it become an obsession? (not that there's anything wrong with it, just trying to find out what I'm in for...) Thanks.
Ariadne Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Hi, Just wondering if the age is normal and what can I expect? If he feels like doing that, obviously is the normal age for him. Will there be mood swings etc..accompanying this as well? If you keep opening the doors on him, yes. And now that he has "discovered" this, will it become an obsession? Nah. Btw, you could get him some magazines too, he'll appreciate that. Ariadne
lovelorcet Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 do you have mood swings when you masterbate? If he is old enough to enjoy it then I would say he is old enough to do it
Craig Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Yeah it's normal. He'll have mood swings but it won't be from masturbating. Please take some time to learn about the changes that are going to occur in your son and your relationship with him. Seriously. Oh and fasten your seat belt, soon EVERYTHING will change and your little boy will be gone forever. He'll come back to you but as an adult.
Author freckles3131 Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Will there be mood swings etc..accompanying this as well? If you keep opening the doors on him, yes. Ariadne I didn't "open the door on him" He had asked me to come up later and tuck him in, and lo and behold....
Author freckles3131 Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 do you have mood swings when you masterbate? I didn't mean to imply I thought that masterbation was going to cause mood swings. I meant because he has entered puberty....
norajane Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Puberty causes lots of changes, probably mood swings. Do some research online or get some books so you know what to expect. And start knocking on his door before you go in.
Author freckles3131 Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Yeah it's normal. He'll have mood swings but it won't be from masturbating. Please take some time to learn about the changes that are going to occur in your son and your relationship with him. Seriously. Oh and fasten your seat belt, soon EVERYTHING will change and your little boy will be gone forever. He'll come back to you but as an adult. We have had many "talks" about puberty, sex, masterbation, what to expect, etc..etc..I'm a very down to earth mom. I guess I wasn't expecting to have him entering this stage at age 11 and wanted to find out if that was the age things begin and what else to expect. As you stated, I should "take some time to learn about what changes are about to occur" that was the reason for my posting in the first place.....
Author freckles3131 Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Puberty causes lots of changes, probably mood swings. Do some research online or get some books so you know what to expect. And start knocking on his door before you go in. Hey Nora, Good to see a familiar name! Yes, I have tried looking stuff up online to get more info on what else to expect and what may be on the horizon, but everything I type in the search engine just brings up porn and more porn...I thought it might be best to go straight to the good folks on here and maybe find someone that has a son that has already gone through this/puberty with their son(s) and could speak from personal experience as opposed to the cold scientific facts most text books give. Re: start knocking on his door before you go in.......no worries there, no need to make him feel awkward about it.*or myself....
stoopid_guy Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 It's normal, and he'll be doing it for many many years. Mood swings? Maybe, but he has to learn to control them. I don't remember anything but constantly horny, voice changing, hair in various places, and strength. I don't think my temperment or mood changed. Buy him porn? He won't need it, but don't be surprised if you find some. If you buy women's magazines, he'll be interested in those.
norajane Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Hey Nora, Good to see a familiar name! Yes, I have tried looking stuff up online to get more info on what else to expect and what may be on the horizon, but everything I type in the search engine just brings up porn and more porn...I thought it might be best to go straight to the good folks on here and maybe find someone that has a son that has already gone through this/puberty with their son(s) and could speak from personal experience as opposed to the cold scientific facts most text books give. Re: start knocking on his door before you go in.......no worries there, no need to make him feel awkward about it.*or myself.... You type in "puberty" and get porn? Try something like "child psychology puberty boys".
Ariadne Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Hi, wanted to find out if that was the age things begin and what else to expect. Well, as the mother of a 16 year old boy... People warned me about the teenage years and how difficult they are etc. To tell you the truth, he is the same with me as when he was 10 years old really. I haven't seen any change at all as far as moods etc. But, what I have done is to take an extra dose of patience with him. Say, sometimes I manage to get him up to go to school and we barely have time to get there, and he'd say... I have to take a shower. Sigh. Ok, go take a shower. I never go against him or argue with him. Because I noticed that if you do then he'd react more strongly that he'd react before. So, is kind of a case of cross your fingers and hope for the best. The growing up is done now and I just have to trust him. I do trust him actually, he is a very mature kid. But yes, I have to let him make his choices now and just watch. If I see some concern I'll discuss it with him though, in a civilized manner, always on his side of course. Lots of pampering and affection for him. For some reason he couldn't care less about alcohol. I've even offered him beer if he wanted to try sometime and he'd say no thanks, it smells bad. Same as drugs, he saw some activity in school and warned the teacher that he had some drug addicts in his class, and told the kid to go to rehab lol. He does play World of Warcraft a lot though, but he seems happy and that's all that matters to me. Ariadne Btw: We do have a problem with his being late for school though, but he is working on it. They need tons of sleep at that age.
Ariadne Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Hey, Buy him porn? He won't need it, but don't be surprised if you find some. If you buy women's magazines, he'll be interested in those. Oh, my son has a stack of porn. Last time my bf guy gave me a bunch that he had in the closet, Hustler, Cheri and what not. One time his friends were about to come and he started collecting the magazines and I told him, isn't that cool that you have those magazines? Is not as cool as you think, mom. Ariadne
jletter Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 No need to buy him porn. (Btw, wouldn't that feel really awkward, to receive porn from your mother?) If he has a computer with an internet connection, or if there's one anywhere in the house, he has already seen lots of that stuff. Maybe it's best if you don't check the "history" function on your computer.
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